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Post by tkk2 on Apr 20, 2016 10:50:19 GMT -5
I left my letter for my husband yesterday at his work. It is a good letter, definitely divinely inspired. He just texted me that he wants to come over tonight after work. I'm torn. Do i say yes, so we can have round#6 of the "poor him, and what i didn't do right" game? Do i tell him to just leave signed papers? I want to say yes, if he would be positive. HELP. ...i need advice please!
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Post by Mary H on Apr 20, 2016 11:04:56 GMT -5
Take any opertunity to connect & show grace & Christ love..
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 20, 2016 11:05:38 GMT -5
I would definitely say yes, because maybe it won't be the #6 round you're dreading... You won't know if you don't let him come over and just see... I'll be praying as you make this decision! And also praying that it goes well, whatever happens. That God may be there in the room with you.
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Post by leandro on Apr 20, 2016 11:19:20 GMT -5
I declare grace and favor with your husband and that he will see God's work through your words and actions. Ask the Holy Spirit for directions and He will guide you. I will be praying for you. God bless you.
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 20, 2016 13:39:14 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. ..he'll be over at 5:00...he likes to play mind games. ..so please pray for my wisdom in seeing that. I prayed that he would stop the divorce until he's in a better mental and spiritual state.
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Post by william on Apr 20, 2016 14:21:57 GMT -5
i have been praying for you since you posted that you were writing the letter. I would agree with everyone else to try. In your head keep thinking God give me strength and your words to say. Take a deep breath step aside and let God do his thing. I will keep on praying.
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 20, 2016 14:58:29 GMT -5
I'll be praying for you TK!! Remember that the Holy Spirit will give you the words and strength if you just keep your heart open!
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Post by Eric W. on Apr 20, 2016 15:29:00 GMT -5
Father, I ask you to reach out your hands and touch Tkk. Lord, she has fears and anxiety over this afternoon. Touch her and let her feel your presence there with her. Reassure her that no matter what comes the fight she fears or the restoration she wants that you are right there beside her either way. Speak words of wisdom, encouragement, and strength to her. Prepare her heart, mind, and soul to follow your direction, however the conversation goes. Father, your son told us to fear not! Lord give her peace and understanding to conquer any fear, to trust in your mighty power. All this I pray, in Jesus' holy name. Knowing it will already be done. Amen.
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 20, 2016 21:14:41 GMT -5
Hi TK, hope it went well! You have been in my thoughts all evening!
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 20, 2016 21:28:46 GMT -5
Hi...well i don't know what to think. He came over carrying my letter and started in on some things i mentioned in it. Wanted clarification. He keeps bringing up 2 really old issues we had....a weekend getaway in the mountains that i denied him and another time at the kitchen sink. He won't let them go. He made a comment several months ago that i never held him. So i gave him 50-some pictures of us holding each other, holding hands, laughing etc. But tonite those weren't goid enough because we were with other people. ...not alone. Dana is very good about raising the bar ever so slightly
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 20, 2016 21:30:31 GMT -5
He said we have 1st court appearance tomorrow. ...and i told him i haven't been served. He was surprised.
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 20, 2016 21:37:31 GMT -5
We talked briefly about counseling together. ....he brought it up, but wouldn't commit one way or the other in the end. I told him I've always been for that. He says he never heard me say that. He's so stuck in remembering only what will accomplish his bottom line....selective. I mentioned that we could take the divorce off the table for now and see how counseling goes.
He also mentioned that him and I should be more important than a god centered marriage. Wait ...what?! The enemies lies!! He did say he's just recently started reading the Bible again
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 20, 2016 21:43:09 GMT -5
I'm praying he will file JDF1305 with the court tomorrow. He'll have to show up regardless. JDF1305 is the form used to dismiss a dissolution of marriage filing because you changed your mind. Overall, tonite feels like a "tie"...which i think I'm ok with....still processing all the comments
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Post by Mary H on Apr 20, 2016 21:44:09 GMT -5
Did you apologize? If so, did he accept it & forgive?
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Text!!!
Apr 20, 2016 22:06:51 GMT -5
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 20, 2016 22:06:51 GMT -5
Thanks for the update TK. I can hear definite confusion and influence of the enemy in his thought patterns... He is in some major spiritual battle, for sure! I will keep praying for you both and I encourage you to stay firm in prayer also. And maybe Mary is right and Dana needs to hear some sadness from you for his feeling hurt/neglected. (Even if it is something you have expressed and apologized for in the past, maybe it bears repeating...) That may be an area the enemy is really twisting him about on; he is perhaps being influenced into victimizing himself and putting all the blame on you. In turn, you can model repentance and forgiveness!! I'll stay in prayer for you two... Hold strong, sister.
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