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Post by kridycat on Apr 14, 2016 13:55:14 GMT -5
I am 30 years old. My husband and I met in college back in February 2005 and have been together ever since. We married in June 2012. We lived together since 2008. We bought our house in November 2010. We started having problems at the end of 2014 and went to counseling for the first half of 2015. I tried to help and give him what he wanted. Instead it blue up in my face. He said he was done and he wished I cheated on him and that was this past October. He filed for divorce and I was served papers at the end of January. We are still living in our house together as neither one of us can afford to move out and still pay the mortgage. We are currently working on a settlement so we can put the house up for sale. It has been such an emotional rollercoaster. I just want us to work things out but if he doesn't want to there is nothing I can do About it. I pray alot and go to church when I can. I have started spending more time with my family. My one sister is also going thru a divorce right now but she has a 5 year old and he cheated on her for the second time. She received her divorce papers exactly two weeks after me. We get to go thru the same thing at the same time.
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 14, 2016 14:03:45 GMT -5
Hi Kristi! Welcome to the group! Sorry to hear about your situation. ...but you found a group that will support you thru it. We all have good and bad days in our stand. This group has been a god send for me thru it all.
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 14, 2016 14:05:33 GMT -5
If you haven't seen the movie Fireproof, i would recommend it. The Love Dare application in the movie might be something helpful for you both.
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Post by william on Apr 14, 2016 15:43:59 GMT -5
Sister,
Welcome to the group please know that you are not alone as we all understand, sympathize, and empathize with what you feel and are going thru. You have gained a family here, know that we will be praying for you.
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Post by Eric W. on Apr 14, 2016 16:05:50 GMT -5
Kristi,
I am sorry you are going through this, but know that all things are possible through God. This place was created was created as a way for us to support, encourage, and pray for each other as we go through similar struggles. We know your pain, and will pray with and for you.
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Post by wendyp67 on Apr 14, 2016 20:27:29 GMT -5
Hi. We are happy you found and joined us. Share, cry, scream or whatever you need. We are hear for you. "Where two are or more are gathered in His name...." Keep looking up no matter which way the wind blows.
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Post by Mary H on Apr 14, 2016 21:26:30 GMT -5
Welcome Kristi!
I'm praying for you
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 14, 2016 21:31:25 GMT -5
Welcome Kristi! We will all be praying for you and your marriage! Never forget that our God is a major miracle worker :-)
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Post by marissaa91 on Apr 15, 2016 1:46:29 GMT -5
Welcome to the group Kristi!
You came to the right place for support! I'll keep your marriage in my prayers.
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Post by Sharon on Apr 15, 2016 7:50:27 GMT -5
Hey Kristi. Welcome sister, I will have you in prayers. It is Gods intervention that you found us and we're so glad you are here. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
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Post by kridycat on Apr 16, 2016 6:02:41 GMT -5
It's really hard sometimes to get thru each day as we both still live in our house together. I sleep in our room and he is almost always sleeping on one of the couches downstairs. We barely see each other as we both have been working a lot. He is an interior architect so his hours of working have always been crazy. I have been working 2 jobs since June. I work full time at a cyper school in student services and part time at a craft store. He was the one who wanted me to get a second job to make extra money and give me something to do with all the time I had since I get done at 3 from my full time job. Now if the divorce does go thru I will need both jobs to help me pay off my student loans plus my living expenses. Once we get the house up for sale and get a buyer them I have to worry about finding a place to live. Sometimes I start thinking about all the things I might have to do and it just crushs me and makes me crazy and upset.
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Post by Mary H on Apr 16, 2016 9:55:02 GMT -5
I can't imagine how crazy that must be... In these really hard times, we are being called to trust Him! Cast it to Jesus a thousand times a day if you have to & just keep trusting Him! Satan is who is causing you fear & anxiety. he's who's having u focus on your circumstances & emotions.. Cast him out in Jesus name!
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 16, 2016 10:54:41 GMT -5
Praying for you Kristi. I too struggle with fear of the future and what might happen. But remember that our future is in God's hands! We don't need to worry, because He has got it 100% under control. Here's a verse I read today and refer to often, I hope it helps:
"The plans of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the LORD." (Proverbs 16:1)
Mary is right. The enemy wants you to focus on your fear, he wants you to fixate on what your husband might do and obsess over it... But that is not of God. God tells us to focus on HIM, to trust in Him, because He will never abandon us!
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Post by Sharon on Apr 17, 2016 17:21:37 GMT -5
Kristi, Eric posted a devotional in the Devotionals section called "Abide prayer" that I think will speak volumes to your situation
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Post by kridycat on Apr 26, 2016 20:24:01 GMT -5
I am starting to feel better. I realize I am depressed and have decided to take some action on it. I started doing yoga 2 weekends ago and working on eating foods that have more vitamin b in it. There are still times I feel sad but I can't change him if he does not want to.
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