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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Mar 25, 2016 10:36:28 GMT -5
Hi  I just joined yesterday and I'm so happy someone recommended this page to me. My husband left me 11 months ago after a big fight we had, after I told him I wanted to kill myself. I've gotten help for those feelings and no longer have them. My husband has been so back and forth with wanting a divorce and wanting to be with me. For the last few months we haven't communicated and he said he was going to file for divorce. I know he's hurt and angry at life but I want to be with him. We have no children. I'm so afraid of losing him. Please pray for us to be able to communicate and work things out. I know he's my soulmate and I have been led to stand and not give up. It just gets so hard sometimes. I'm giving my marriage to God because every time I try things my way, I make my husband angry. Thank ya'll so much! Lindsey |
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Post by Adrienne on Mar 25, 2016 10:46:51 GMT -5
Hi Lindsey, welcome to the group! I'm so glad to hear your testimony that God has transformed your approach to life and changed those feelings! I encourage you to trust that He can do the same type of transformation in your marriage. Sometimes we don't understand how it will be possible but His plans are so much bigger and better than ours, that's for sure. I'll be praying for both you and your husband.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Mar 25, 2016 10:57:43 GMT -5
Hi Adrienne thank you so much for your kind welcome God has definitely transformed my life and my thinking, but when I told my husband this, he got so angry and said that he didn't think God would want him to be so miserable. He went off on me and made me feel like being with me has been the worst time of his life. It hurt me so much and made me wonder how things could ever work out between us. How do people overcome these things? I trust God, it's just sometimes I can't see how my husband can change how he feels about me right now. You're right though, I know I shouldn't look at the circumstance, but just give it to God and trust that he can change things in an instant. Thank you for your prayers, I really appreciate them and also your advice!! |
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 25, 2016 11:00:08 GMT -5
Welcome! And Yes, I agree with Adrienne! God can transform anything just give it up to him. It may seem hard right now but God is working. God will change things inside you and your husband first before your marriage so don't get discouraged! Just keep pressing into Him. I'll pray for you both.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Mar 25, 2016 11:06:13 GMT -5
Thank you Marissa you're right, it's very hard, and for a long time I was just so hurt and angry, but then I realized things in myself that needed to change. I worked on them and continue to so that I can be a better wife for my husband when he returns. Now I'm trusting God to work on my husband too, and trying really hard to just trust in this whole journey and process. Thank you so much for your prayers! |
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Post by Mary H on Mar 25, 2016 12:33:21 GMT -5
Welcome!! I will be praying for you & your husband! Remember that this world & everything in it will be dust very soon.. Eyes on heavenly things & everything else will fall into place  ? |
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Post by Mary H on Mar 25, 2016 12:33:48 GMT -5
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Mar 25, 2016 14:19:09 GMT -5
Hey Mary Thank you so much for your prayers and advice!! You're exactly right! I'm definitely trying my best... some moments are just harder than others. I'm glad I was led to this page, I think it helps to have people to talk to. |
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Post by william on Mar 25, 2016 15:41:51 GMT -5
Welcome to the family. I will be praying for you & your husband. Be sure to let Gods love, humility, mercy and grace flow thru you by your words and actions. All we can do is constantly seek him out daitly.
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Post by Eric W. on Mar 25, 2016 16:29:16 GMT -5
Welcome. I am glad you were able to find us. We have some amazing brothers and sisters standing and praying along side each other.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Mar 25, 2016 17:43:32 GMT -5
Thank you William and Eric I'm so glad I was led to this page. I already feel so welcome and it's only my first day here!! |
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Post by Sharon on Mar 25, 2016 19:23:00 GMT -5
Welcome Lindsey! I just want to start by saying your husband can not change how he feels. Only God can intervene to soften his heart, but thank you Lord that he is for marriage and has the desire to do that! He is the only one who can fix this and he loves you and your husband and wants to transform you both to be the "chord of 3" that is not easily broken with God at the center. He can do it. Just trust in Him! When my husband is cruel, it's easy to be angry or sad and have negative feelings for him, but God is helping transform my way of seeing him. My husband is fallen. He is a sinner just like me. And he is allowing the enemy to speak lies in his ear and he believes them. I have told my husband before that "this is not you. This is not who God created you to be" I think it is important to recognize that your husband is not living as the man God intended him to be right now. In fact it is the enemy speaking from his mouth right now. Don't believe it. Your husband does love you but he is plagued by the enemies lies. God is fighting that battle so continue to give it back to him.
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Post by erika on Mar 25, 2016 19:24:18 GMT -5
Lindsey, I understand what you're going thru but remember with God all things are possible. God can change your situation at any moment. When my husband left few months ago, he told me he was miserable and he wanted to " enjoy life" and to make matters worse he didn't want to have kids with me, I was devastated, I thought it was the end of my marriage. I tried to fix it on my own but I ended up pushing my husband away, that's when I decided to trust God and let Him lead the way. My husband is not back home yet but God is restoring what the enemy tried to take from me. My husband has been spending so much time with me, he's been telling me he loves me and we have been trying to get pregnant, God is changing my husband, I know God will change your husband too, Im glad you joined our group. I know God led you to this wonderful group for a purpose. I'm going to pray for you. You'll see, pretty soon you'll be telling us how God is restoring your marriage.
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Post by tkk2 on Mar 25, 2016 19:25:38 GMT -5
Welcome! Let me start by saying it's no coincidence you found this group. We love you and want to encourage you thru this. Now here's my take....satan has a firm grip on your husband and your marriage. Your husband is not your enemy....but the enemy got to him. You need to pray, fight and trust. You need to rebuke satan and his lies...out loud! AND get him out of your house. All he does is inflict doubt. ...its so simple of him. I'm praying for you. My husband and i barely communicate. He's come by 5 times in 16 months to tell me he's done and he's going to file. We've been together 20 years. But each time he's here....he hears the holy spirit, because they are not my words. I love him, i miss him but the lord has made it very clear to me
that I should sit still and stay the course. If you haven't seen War Room, i would recommend it....it will give you perspective and direction. I pray, by the shed blood of Jesus Christ, that Satan would depart from you, your spouse and your marriage. God's got this! Eyes on him. God bless.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Mar 25, 2016 19:26:42 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon. You're exactly right... your response brought tears to my eyes. I know that this isn't my husband and I'm trusting in God to soften his heart and help him be the man and husband he created him to be. Thank you so much for responding!
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I just joined yesterday and I'm so happy someone recommended this page to me. My husband left me 11 months ago after a big fight we had, after I told him I wanted to kill myself. I've gotten help for those feelings and no longer have them. My husband has been so back and forth with wanting a divorce and wanting to be with me. For the last few months we haven't communicated and he said he was going to file for divorce. I know he's hurt and angry at life but I want to be with him. We have no children. I'm so afraid of losing him. Please pray for us to be able to communicate and work things out. I know he's my soulmate and I have been led to stand and not give up. It just gets so hard sometimes. I'm giving my marriage to God because every time I try things my way, I make my husband angry. Thank ya'll so much! Lindsey 
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