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Post by wendyp67 on Mar 14, 2016 20:04:42 GMT -5
When I do ask Chris about if he is going to file or not he says nothing is written in stone. He also told me to keep praying for him that it is helping. I am just too afraid to trust and believe him from all the lies. God please give clarity and Your wisdom as to what to do. I do want You to continue to work on and on Chris. I don't see changes but who knows. I just worry about his salvation and his relationship with You father God. In Jesus name amen. Please pray for me that I get knocked on he head by God and know His truth. I need that hand writing on the wall.
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Post by Eric W. on Mar 14, 2016 20:45:17 GMT -5
Wendy, my advice is not to ask. Believe in God, that he isn't going to. Until, God, or your husband show you absolutely otherwise, I say keep your faith and your hope that it won't come to that step. God has each of us, right where we are for a reason, for a purpose. Lately, I have slacked in my walk. I haven't been in the Word, like I should, but I am working to rectify that. My walk with God has been closer since my stand than it ever has in the past.
If that is all that comes of my stand, and my wife and I are never restored, I will be sad, but I will love my God for moving my Earth to be closer to me.
Don't fall into the trap of a time frame. Trust God, trust your father, that what is happening will work out for good. He is already asking you for continued prayer. I would take that as a praise report! I am praying for you both sister.
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Post by erika on Mar 14, 2016 20:50:03 GMT -5
Wendy, I know is hard to not know what's going to happen but remember God knows what's going to happen, so if I were you, I would stop asking your husband wether he will file or not. Just pray to your Heavenly Father and He will answer you. Don't worry Wendy just trust in God. When my husband told me he was leaving and he was thinking about filing for divorce, I was devastated and then I tried everything to fix my relationship with him, I would ask my husband nonstop wether he was gonna file or not because I didn't want to be the last to know then I decided to turn to God for help and He has been helping me ever since. My husband ended up leaving, but now that I look back, him leaving was what got me closer to God, He used that for a purpose. God has been restoring my marriage in ways I can't describe, my husband is not back yet but he has been telling me that he is ready to come home. Wendy I know God will restore your marriage, you just gotta trust in Him. I will pray for you.
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 14, 2016 21:04:57 GMT -5
I agree with Eric and Erika. I know how you feel, I can be like that too, asking questions and not trusting God the way I should. But not asking is the key. It makes you fully trust in God with blind faith and it keeps your husband from feeling pressured. The last few days I've come to realize that asking questions only bothers my husband because he's not ready to answer them and it may even push him away. So keep your eyes on God and trust that he is with you. It's scary sometimes but God calls us to have faith beyond all understanding. Praying for you!
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Post by william on Mar 14, 2016 22:50:02 GMT -5
Wendy, I understand the urge and desire that is driving you to want to ask. As you all know it was my actions that led to Allison & my separation. She has filled papers for separation/divorce ( we have a child together & Louisiana have to wait period of 1yr when have minor child), she has said she doesn't know if she is going to make official in 1yr, but that filling the opera to begin the process is what she "thinks and feels" she has to do at this time.
I have no idea where she stands regarding her decision, if she is just counting time or not. If I allow and listen to the enemy or am not heavily pursuing God for guidance in this stand it eats me alive. Sister, I agree with everyone else, don't ask him. I know the feeing of wanting to know what our prodigals are thinking / wanting can and will drive us crazy if we dwell on it. I truly believe that is the devil using his spiritual mind warfare because he knows our love for our prodigals is what we have & hold dear, and that we want them to look to God & have the same relationship with the Father we have. The enemy can't stand it so he attacks us at our weakest place our love for the prodigal...to doubt and cloud what God is doing. Pray hard about it, sister I will be praying for clarification and guidance for you and for God to continue to pull on and work on your husband.
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Post by wendyp67 on Mar 14, 2016 23:24:01 GMT -5
Thanks y'all. You know we go down and up on this roller coaster. But we do stand. Not only for our marriages but with other through this. United we stand. Where two or three are gathered. Strength in numbers. We are god's army. Thanks for the prayers. I am seeking additional Christian counseling. I love too much and over step my boundary with God and His work. I don't know how to take care of myself. I feel selfish. But now is my time with my Abba Father. Y'all take that time too. Like they always say war is hell and I'm not about to go there. Praise almighty God.
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Post by Sharon on Mar 15, 2016 13:28:31 GMT -5
I keep reminding myself again and again that I am not supposed to find my comfort in my husband. I am supposed to find it in God. You may be asking because you're looking for the comfort - for him to say no he is not going to file. I agree with everyone that trusting God is the best thing you can do. Your husband doesn't know what will happen with your marriage or your future. God does and he wants to encourage you and bless you.
"For I know the plans I have for you." Says the Lord "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 15, 2016 16:59:34 GMT -5
Well said Sharon. I agree.
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