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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 12, 2016 10:43:59 GMT -5
So in a round about way I found out my husband has been lying to me. He's been telling me he's in debt and had to cut a deal with our apartment management because he can't afford all his bills. He said he helps out at our friends house that he's staying at. Well, that's not true. He doesn't give them rent money or help out with groceries. He makes $1600+ a month so where is all that money going that he can't afford the rent here? I asked about it and he flipped out. He demande to know who told me that so I explained and he just told me "stay out of it". Problem is, I can't because his money affects me staying at this apartment. Pray for us please. I don't know what to do.
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Post by Mary H on Mar 12, 2016 11:59:45 GMT -5
I'm so sorry... Tony is that way with his money too.. Just like the prodigal son, they are spending their money on themselves & "fine living" & waisting it.
It's so frustrating..
Tony & I have 2 kids & so his financial state effects me too. Also, he recently said he wants to rent a place together & I don't like that idea because of how he is with his money now... He waists it every chance he gets.. But he did open up to me a coupl weeks ago about wanting to stop waisting it & feeling convicted about it.. He even took lunch to work the next day instead of getting fast food, & made other small efforts, but they faded..
Encouragment & prayer is all we can do & its soooo hard!
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Post by Sharon on Mar 12, 2016 12:07:26 GMT -5
It is really hard with finances to trust in God, but he wants us to trust him even with that. When I was in the world, I would get lots of random bills (speeding tickets, car accidents, unexpected doctors visits, etc). I finally learned to be responsible with my money though and after I started following God, the opposite started happening. We would get random chunks of money from no where that we expected (signing bonus with military, gi bill chunk payment, extra money in the tax return, extra money in our paypal account, etc) and it happens often. God knows the concerns of your heart and if you follow him, He can and will take care of those too! I am praying for your husband right now. God knows what is truly going on here in your husbands heart and where the money is going and He also wants to fix that. Just keep standing out of the way and trusting the Lord.
Lord I pray comfort over Marissa. We want to stay in control always, but she is giving this up to you God and we know you will bless her. We know that your intention is to keep her safe and flourishing.
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 12, 2016 12:12:33 GMT -5
Yeah that sounds exactly like Garrett. He's like that with his money, always has been. It hurts me because I'm just trying to help him. But I can see that the Lord needs to do more work in each of us. Especially now that he's trying to say he wants nothing to do with God or faith anymore. Which, admittedly broke my heart. Although with the dream I had the other night I should've prepared more. We had dinner plans a week from now but we'll see if we go now. But if not then the next time I'll see him is when we go for taxes in 2 weeks.
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 12, 2016 12:15:35 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon. Money has always been an issue for us. I'm good with it and he isn't. But his pride keeps him fro. Being honest with me about it. I'm praying he comes back to God. This is a new season and new battle I'm facing. I need to keep connected with God.
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Post by Mary H on Mar 12, 2016 12:59:59 GMT -5
I stopped connecting with God as much for a week or 2 up until yesterday... It was so terrible
DONT LOOSE HEART!
Stay connected!
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 12, 2016 13:35:20 GMT -5
I have been connected but I do feel like it's not been as much as when this all first started. But I do have peace right now. After we stopped texting I cried, of course, but then I prayed and put on music and immediately had peace and my tears stopped flowing. I also text every believer I could to pray over the situation. His dad told me that two weeks ago he said he believed when they talked so he's probably just mad and wanting attention right now. Which is true I think. He only started saying it after I asked about the money. He never answered that question. I even felt like he wanted to find something to distract me from it and hurt me so I'd stop talking to him. That way he wouldn't have to explain where the money is going. But he didn’t have to tell me. I think I already know. So I'm just gonna put on my worship music, pray, and do my homework/errands before work today. Worrying about him will only keep me from God and hinder God's work. I am however, putting in my notice to be out of the apartment sooner. Which I told him I was gonna do. Since he won't be honest with me about the money then I can't trust him to continue until the end of april. So I'm going either today or tomorrow to put in my notice.
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 12, 2016 16:24:59 GMT -5
So text me an apology and then caked and apologized. He even canceled his band plans tonight so we could talk so he could show me how sorry he was. He didn't know I work until 11 tonight. I accepted the apology but something inside me broke down and I just wept. I told him I was just tired because this is hard. That I know I'm always happy and things don't seem hard but they are and it makes me tired always having to take these blows from him. That I don't expect anything from him even when I say I love you because I realy mean it even if he doesn't feel the same. He remained quiet and just kept apologizing for talking his anger out on me and saying those awful things about God. I felt better after the convo but we were both kind of in a weird state after that. Not sad but not happy either, if that makes sense?
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 12, 2016 16:25:38 GMT -5
*He text me
*called and apologized
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