Post by tkk2 on Mar 1, 2018 5:14:19 GMT -5
I know what Eric means to be stuck. I'm in my 4th year of being separated, which seems crazy when i think about it. There are days when i wonder if I'm not doing enough, which is keeping me stuck. Recently, I know God is working on the other side of the mountain....just last week Dana had to move out of his rental house in Aurora because the old man who owned it died, and his kids are selling it. Of course, our daughter said out loud the question i have....why doesn't he move home. I told her he's not ready. I can tell by what comes up over and over in counseling. And also by his negative attitude with his work, the news, my family. His heart is still hard, but i see glimpses of softening...(he gave my yellow roses on Valentine's day....which was amazing, right?! )
He keeps saying he thought he would be further along in life at this point (he'll be 57 on Mar 12)...he means financially/retirement. He's upset because he couldn't qualify for a house on his own. Being self-employed does not help when trying to get loans. He keeps trying to do things on his own accord and not asking God to guide him....or at least not having the faith to trust that God's plan is best.
Of course, i prayed the Lord would intercede and stop any further division between us, when i found out he was trying to get a VA loan on his own. Come to find out a VA loan has to be owner occupied, which is not a problem for him living alone....but it is a problem when you are still legally married! I just had to chuckle!! Way to go God!
Anyway he found a basement rental in Centennial.....which is halfway to our home in Parker, from where he was in Aurora.
So, i told our daughter that and she agreed that its a step...PTL!
This is a big week for my recovery...i had my last physical therapy session Tues (required after PRP/stem cell surgery) and my last neurofeedback session last night. My final brain map is today. Overall, i feel so much better than i did 4 months ago! I'm so grateful that the Lord guided me to these alternative treatments.
Just a thought....Maybe God has to restore me before he can restore my marriage?
Anyway, the next step is to get back in shape after 11 months of little exercise....so i signed up at our local rec center with a personal trainer for 10 sessions to start with.
My heart is filled with joy...God is on the move!
He keeps saying he thought he would be further along in life at this point (he'll be 57 on Mar 12)...he means financially/retirement. He's upset because he couldn't qualify for a house on his own. Being self-employed does not help when trying to get loans. He keeps trying to do things on his own accord and not asking God to guide him....or at least not having the faith to trust that God's plan is best.
Of course, i prayed the Lord would intercede and stop any further division between us, when i found out he was trying to get a VA loan on his own. Come to find out a VA loan has to be owner occupied, which is not a problem for him living alone....but it is a problem when you are still legally married! I just had to chuckle!! Way to go God!
Anyway he found a basement rental in Centennial.....which is halfway to our home in Parker, from where he was in Aurora.
So, i told our daughter that and she agreed that its a step...PTL!
This is a big week for my recovery...i had my last physical therapy session Tues (required after PRP/stem cell surgery) and my last neurofeedback session last night. My final brain map is today. Overall, i feel so much better than i did 4 months ago! I'm so grateful that the Lord guided me to these alternative treatments.
Just a thought....Maybe God has to restore me before he can restore my marriage?
Anyway, the next step is to get back in shape after 11 months of little exercise....so i signed up at our local rec center with a personal trainer for 10 sessions to start with.
My heart is filled with joy...God is on the move!
