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Post by pstokes522 on May 2, 2017 0:29:29 GMT -5
I saw Dave again this weekend. He came down to get some of his things to move into the new house, but he stayed overnight. After working all day yesterday, we went out and had a great time. He didn't get emotional like he did before, but he was very open and honest about many things. I mainly just listen, and ask an occasional question. Some of the things he says just floors me. For example, he went to see his father last week. He took the gf with him. After they left, she told him that my mother in law kept bringing me up all weekend. Telling her things 'Dave & Pat' did, like the bedroom they were sleeping in was the same bedroom that we used to sleep in. I don't know why my mil would say those things, but I think I'll give her a big hug next time I see her. Anyway, the gf was upset because she had to hear about me all weekend. Then she starts crying about what mil said and the fact that my kids (all grown & can make their own decisions) don't want to meet her. He said he just looked at her and said 'there's nothing I can do' turned the radio up louder, tuned her out and drove while she sat over there crying. Wow! Doesn't sound like he's too concerned about her feelings. He told me about her snooping and finding pictures of us together and questioning him about why he's keeping them; and he just tells her to stay out of his stuff. She started texting him, and he was showing me the texts and we were coming up with the replies together. It was just a very comfortable time together. He told me to email him a new picture of me to his work email when he goes back overseas. And he talked about her going to Mexico City in August, he's not going, and he thinks that will be a good time for him, me, and the kids and their families to all get together at his new house. Hmmm - we'll see if he pulls that one off! God is good and He's bringing my hubby back.
PS - I wear my wedding ring always and he has never questioned me as to why. And some of the people sitting next to us, questioned us about why in the world we were divorced.
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Post by tkk2 on May 2, 2017 6:10:03 GMT -5
Yea! My heart is smiling for you!
PTL
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Post by william on May 2, 2017 12:39:10 GMT -5
I have tears in my eyes as I read this Sister. God is amazing!
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Post by Sharon on May 14, 2017 14:01:40 GMT -5
I read this, but haven't had a chance to reply. Y'all sound like two kids dating all over again. Cherish these moments sister and keep your eyes focused on God! He is doing some incredible work here!
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Post by Adrienne on May 15, 2017 10:48:46 GMT -5
I love hearing this, Pat! I second Sharon's advice to keep your eyes on God! I know sometimes when all is well it's easy to stop praying as much but keep strong in that prayer life, sister. :-)
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Post by pstokes522 on May 18, 2017 10:26:00 GMT -5
I just reread what I wrote and I was praising God and so hopeful - truly giving God the Glory. Then the next weekend he left to go back overseas ... I set myself up for disappointment. I thought he would text me after she dropped him off at the airport - which is usually when he calls the kids. I didn't hear anything from him 😢. Then Mother's Day came and went without a word from him. First time since we separated in 2013 that I didn't hear from him on MD 😢😢. Monday of this week I sent him a short (one sentence) flirty email to his work email address - and again no response. I did mess up and look his gf up on LinkedIn - to see if she had gotten a job (I'm praying God arranges a job for her in PA where her son lives). She had liked a picture someone had posted that said something like 'it's hard to remain positive with everything around you keeps falling apart...' (it went on but I don't remember the rest of it) - anyway, I didn't realize LinkedIn would show her that I looked at her page... so I'm sure he heard a ration of s - -t about that! Could be why he's not responding. So, since a week ago Tuesday, I've been down in the dumps & getting more down each day. I was back to the pain I felt when we divorced last year. I realized Tuesday that once again, I took my eyes off Jesus and had them squarely on David. If God was testing me - I failed miserably 😫ðŸ˜. So now I'm back in the saddle and probably set my restoration WAY back...
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Post by leandro on May 18, 2017 20:30:19 GMT -5
Pat, don't get so discouraged, you didn't do anything bad, I know sometimes we let our emotions take control and that's not a very good thing. Don't worry about it, God is doing the work on your husband from what you have told us. Sometimes God speaks the most when He is quiet. Stay strong in prayer and don't let your emotions take over. God bless you.
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Post by Adrienne on May 18, 2017 21:58:41 GMT -5
Pat, a line I have heard before that encourages me is "Don't think you've messed up God's plans for your life, you're not powerful enough to do that!" Something like that. I am constantly reminded that I have to take my eyes off G and put them squarely on God - I'm reminded so often because of how often I get into the wrong perspective! We all do it, but our God helps us through. Keep praying and remember that our God is working everything according to His perfect plan!
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Post by pstokes522 on May 20, 2017 8:13:17 GMT -5
Thank you Leandro!
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Post by pstokes522 on May 20, 2017 8:14:20 GMT -5
Thank you Adrienne!
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Post by pstokes522 on Aug 12, 2017 9:30:47 GMT -5
My neighbor, who is a strong supporter of my stand and prays for marriage restoration for us constantly, asked me about Dave this week. I told her I haven't heard anything from him since he left that second time in April. I made the comment that I guess he's just living his happy life without giving me a second thought. She asked if that's what I thought, and I told her yes. She said, "I don't think that. I think he felt 'something' when he was here with you, something he wasn't expecting to feel, and he's even more confused because it messed up what he thought his life was." When I spent some time with God later, I felt like He was validating what she said. Thursday I spent some time driving, which means constant communication with God, so I asked Him to show me a sign this weekend, something concrete that I couldn't explain away, to let me know if my neighbor was indeed correct, & it wasn't just wishful thinking on my part. Driving yesterday, out on the back roads of Texas, I saw a van with the word COVENANT written on the side. As I passed it, I felt God speak - there's your sign! Satan has been attacking me hard since Dave's visits in April. I'm not tempted to end my stand, I think even Satan knows I'm committed to that, so He doesn't even try to tempt me with that anymore. But other things have been going on with my mom health and with other members of my family, which has been stressful. I'm still praying, but not spending as much time reading my bible and have completely giving up journaling. I feel like God really spoke to me when I was journaling, so I need to get back to it.
My son told me last weekend that "she was going to be in Mexico, so it was a good opportunity for him to go see Daddy's new house and visit with him." I felt like that was great, & told him so. He went & spent three days there. I asked my youngest daughter if her dad had told her the OW was away, & she said no. So I told her what my son said, so she called her dad and said she'd like to come see him also. She said he was really excited. She was off work the next day, so she and her boyfriend drove up there for the day. They all had a nice visit. I mentioned it to my other daughter also, but it wasn't possible for them to go. Talking with my daughter in law yesterday, the OW was still there when they got there, she was in the process of leaving. I asked if David introduced her to them, and she said No, she just left.
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Post by tkk2 on Aug 14, 2017 4:29:29 GMT -5
I love hearing about the Covenant truck! Gods timing is so amazing.
So, I'm confused....is the OW moving out?
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Post by pstokes522 on Aug 15, 2017 0:14:07 GMT -5
No, the OW is not moving out (yet, that she knows of - but I know My God has other plans!) Saturday night, actually early Sunday morning my husband started texting me. He asked how things were going, & about a recent vacation I took. Then the conversation turned to him confessing he had been drinking that evening and was missing me. He wanted me to come see him at his new house. I was about 3 hours away, and asked him if he was sure, because I didn't want to drive 3 hours for him to change his mind. He said he was sure, so I left about 2:30 in the morning and drove to his new place, north of Houston. I stayed there all of Sunday and made it back to my place about 11:00 that night. It was a wonderful time - we were comfortable with each other and I think he's really conflicted - but I know he is hearing God. Unfortunately, he's also hearing Satan lie to him that too much has happened - that it would never work. But I KNOW that My God is more powerful and when it's the right time, according to His timetable, He will remove the blinders from David's eyes and he will see everything clearly. After almost 4 months of no communication, I once again can see what God is doing on the other side of the mountain. He is so faithful!
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Post by tkk2 on Aug 15, 2017 5:29:34 GMT -5
I love your awareness and the hope you have! It does sound like he is still torn, but you're right...god has a plan!
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Post by pstokes522 on Aug 15, 2017 9:58:27 GMT -5
I do recognize that Dave is testing the waters. He is not ready to give her up, whether he feels responsible for her because she doesn't have a job, or if he truly loves her (or thinks he does) I don't know. But he was very concerned about sneaking me into the neighborhood. Not so much afraid of sneaking me out though. I'm in a place of complete surrender to The Lord for whatever His will is for my life, both in the present and the future.
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