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Post by tschnelli on Mar 9, 2017 16:01:06 GMT -5
Hello friends,
Today, my heart breaks and I need to be vulnerable and ask for prayer in my current circumstance. My wife walked out about 9 months ago. This month we would be celebrating our three year anniversary of marriage. Instead of celebrating, I will be boarding a plane to Ethiopia to work with kids. I am looking at it as a way to reclaim that once beautiful day for the Lord and his work. Out of the blue, my wife reached out today...
What excited me at first, quickly turned to a heart wrenching, deep stabbing pain. She told me to stop reaching out to her. To stop loving her and stop sending her messages or talking with her in general. She said she is going to block me on all social media and plans to completely cut me out of her life. I am already down and feel like I have just been kicked.
I know God has a plan. I have been praying for His will. Whether it be reconciliation or not. I have been praying for her relationship with the Father. It has been so heartbreaking watching her change and chase the things of this world. It is so counter to who she once was.
Thank you for the prayers and being men and women who are willing to stand for marriage, family, faith and each other.
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erika
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Post by erika on Mar 9, 2017 23:46:13 GMT -5
I'm gonna pray for you !! I know it's difficult to hear those words from your wife but I know God has a plan for you maybe right now you don't understand it but later you will.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
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Post by Adrienne on Mar 10, 2017 8:39:37 GMT -5
Erika already gave you my favorite verse! Tyler I know this is so hard and painful. Remember when it hurts to lean into God all the more. It sounds weird but maybe try not to worry about praying for your marriage or for restoration. Instead focus on praying for yourself, for healing, for growth, for strength to forgive. When you pray for your wife, continue as you have been - praying for her relationship with God - but not for the purpose of restoration necessarily. God already has a perfect plan for that in due time, so leave it in His hands. I will be praying for you too.
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Post by tschnelli on Mar 10, 2017 9:58:57 GMT -5
Thanks Erika and Adrienne. I really appreciate the kind words. I started praying that way a couple months ago and it really changed everything.  |
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Post by Sharon on Mar 10, 2017 13:16:39 GMT -5
I agree with Erika and Adrienne. Focus now on what God is doing in you and let God worry about her. Sometimes God asks us to step out of the way, but sometimes we have to be forced. It's so hard. You want to be in control. Instead you have to trust. But praise God that you have Him to trust in! The only one who can actually fix this. The only one who cares more about your wife then you do. In fact, the one who cares more about you then you even care about yourself too. He's the best person to leave a problem in His hands. It will be resolved and it will be for your best. To give you hope and a future.
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Post by tschnelli on Mar 10, 2017 18:44:53 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon. I really appreciate your kind words and advice.
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Post by tkk2 on Mar 11, 2017 6:24:14 GMT -5
Most of us have had the exact same deep sorrowful pain. Remember this is spiritual warfare! It's about not letting Satan take foothold.....your intercession prayers for your wife are key! Keep standing, keep believing....god's got this
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Post by marissaa91 on Mar 11, 2017 12:05:03 GMT -5
I agree with the others. Pray but keep your eyes on God and not your marriage. Easier said than done but God knows the desires of your heart and always has plans for good out of darkness somehow. Like your trip, that's incredibly wonderful and you could spread hope and Gods love to those who really need it. Keep praying and doing great things, God will guide you and hold you up when you feel too weak. I'll be praying for you.
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Post by pstokes522 on Mar 14, 2017 22:35:57 GMT -5
I'm just going to echo what everyone else is saying. It hurts deeply - we all know that. Let God change you. I don't necessarily pray for my marriage restoration anymore as much as I pray for my husband to return to The Lord. I don't know what's real - I was always taught once saved always saved, but now I'm hearing that if you die in rebellion to what you know is the truth, then you're doomed. To me, that makes more sense. Because otherwise, people wouldn't need to be concerned about their sin, if eternity was already decided. So, since I'm conflicted, I pray that he returns to The Lord, so there is no conflict. Marriage restoration is secondary to that. However, I know what God promised me and what He wants of me, and I'll be obedient to Him, even if it takes years for my marriage to be restored. I'll be praying for you Tyler. I would think it is much harder on you that are younger than it is on us older ones, who have already raised families. My prayers are with you. Sorry for my rambling. (Random thoughts come flowing out sometimes. Lol)
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Post by tschnelli on Mar 16, 2017 11:30:55 GMT -5
Thank you P! It is always encouraging to hear about others who are aligned with God and continuing to stand. It is tough being young because a lot of those around me do not understand. But I don't think it is any easier. It is a trauma to our hearts and bodies regardless of our walk in life. Thank you for the kind words of encouragement.
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Post by william on Mar 22, 2017 18:45:10 GMT -5
My brother, Your pain is our pain, we are all one...I want to share this song with you, remember your not alone in this. We are all walking along with you and most of all our Father is among us. youtu.be/k_bHd2-QhuQ |
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Post by tkk2 on Mar 23, 2017 5:36:27 GMT -5
So powerful William! I've never heard that song.....thank you for sharing.
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Post by tschnelli on Mar 23, 2017 5:38:33 GMT -5
I will listen when I can. I just landed in London.
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Post by Sharon on Mar 26, 2017 11:02:33 GMT -5
I was praying the other day at church and our pastor reminded us to not give up, but to continue in prayer even for those people our prayers grew cold for. I have been praying a lot because although my marriage is healing, I worry about his relationship with God. It all happens slower then I want, but it is okay. I was also praying for my dad who is influenced by a demon of greed and I am afraid he doesn't even know who he is without that. But then I felt God saying to me to pray for our group and He said "you know I can do it and I want to do it. Why wouldn't I do it then?!" And that is right! He can, He wants to, He will. We have to remember no longer how long it takes, he loves his children, our husbands and wives, our moms and dads, our brothers and sisters. He loves them and He has made us promises! He can and He wants to, so we have to continue in faith and know that He will.
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Post by tschnelli on Apr 2, 2017 9:37:36 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon.
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