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Post by tkk2 on Feb 6, 2017 9:52:08 GMT -5
My 13 yr old granddaughter, Kaden,is struggling to fit in at school. She has very low self esteem. My daughter, Sabrina, has the same parenting approach as my husband, unfortunately. Very negative, very demanding. Over the weekend I found out Kaden has been interested in pornography the last 6 months. It's soo bad, that Kaden's step-mom told her she is probably pansexual (sp?). Now Kaden believes in her new label, truly she does. First off, I am worried for Kaden, it seems she is drawn to gay friends, since they are outcasts socially. Second, I would love to give her step-down a piece of my mind. They are not Christian and Kaden is with them 50% of the time now. I will hold my tongue. Third, my daughter (who you might remember is been lured by Christaphilians) is being predictable. Saying things like she can't force Kaden into an after-school sport, group or even therapy. While I agree with that on some level, she can help steer Kaden's boat with suggestions etc...all without Kaden knowing it , which will benefit her. Sabrina just shrugs it off, like it's too hard, or late. She won't pray with belief, because she can't forgive herself. So, please pray...there are so many layers here. My heart is sad. Any advice,books, websites, anything you can think of...please let me know.
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Post by Sharon on Feb 6, 2017 10:40:28 GMT -5
Wow TK I will definitely be praying. I know it is hard to watch these young people make decisions that you know is going to hurt them, but remember sister that God has a different but beautiful plan for each of us and it often involves us making unwise decisions, before we turn to God for the wise decisions. Whenever you are with her, please remember to not be critical of the decisions she makes or act with judgement. Instead, pray before you see her that the Lord would use you to speak to her. If you are loving towards her, regardless of your opinion of the situation, she will know that love and will be more able to hear and believe your wise counsel when she asks for it. If you are loving, she will ask for it. I pray that God would give you the words and fill you with the gift of wisdom and knowledge so that all that you say and do has an inward effect on her. Not to shame or guilt her, but that it sinks deep in her heart as love and that her eyes could be opened because of that.
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Post by tkk2 on Feb 6, 2017 13:16:08 GMT -5
Thanks Sharon....I'm so tired with tax season I can't see straight.....but you all are my prayer warriors. Thank you for your great wisdom.
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Post by pstokes522 on Feb 6, 2017 18:27:33 GMT -5
I had to see what Christaphilian meant - I'd never heard of it before. I don't have any wisdom TK other than to turn it over to God and continue to pray. I'll be praying for her also. Puberty is such a hard time anyway, with hormones literally changing their bodies and confusing their minds. It was a whole lot easier when I was growing up - there were girls and boys - period. We had people who were gay, but they still identified with their born sex. The whole LGBT thing is very confusing for me & now they've added a Q to the end (LGBTQ) and I always thought queer was a derogatory term. I think all we can do is pray - this is something that is definitely in God's hands - but I'll also pray for a straight Christian friend for Kaden.
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