Served

Tyler - I don't remember where you live or what the laws are. In Texas all it takes is one spouse wanting a divorce for it to be granted. When I got my divorce papers, my husband had told we would work everything out between us & his attorney would just make it legal. I did take the papers to an attorney just to review to make sure they were actually what we agreed on. My only advice, which doesn't seem like good advice, is to pray & ask God what to do. I know that's hard because you're already heartbroken and it's hard to discern God's instructions sometimes. I was told put on some praise music for a while & just praise The Lord until your mind is clear of anything else, then pray and tell God you want to have a conversation. Have a pad of paper and a pen ready and just start writing. Talk to Him and ask Him questions. When you are in a state of total worship and prayer, the first thing that pops into your mind is from God. Don't analyze it, just write down questions and answers as they come to you. And praise Him and thank Him for being with you. It's what I did when I was so hurt and confused before, to the point I couldn't even hear God. I hope this helps. I'll be praying for you.

Thanks leandro. I really appreciate that.

I will be praying with and for you brother. My pastor preached Sunday over Matthew 18:19-20. That if two of us come together in agreement, that it will be done according to God's will. He made a lot of statements Sunday that felt just for me, but the biggest bullseye was that the reason the devil attacks husband's and wives so fervently is because of this very thing. That if a husband and wife come together in agreement we can move heaven and earth. That if he can keep one or the other of us, bound up in non-agreement... His job is done.

He also said that just because it would be done, doesn't mean it will be done on our time frame. That when he was a little boy and got the Sears catalog in September he would pick one or two things that he wanted for Christmas and would ask his dad to get them. Once his dad said yes, he knew without playing with it, without riding it, or without wearing it, that it was his. He had no doubt, just belief. We have to do the same thing. Ignore what our eyes see, our ears hear, and our minds think, and believe in what our father has told us. Love you, brother, and I will be praying with you.

Eric is spot on Tyler. God is stronger then divorce papers. I would highly suggest you take those papers and pour out prayer over them. Ask God to use this for His glory. That His will be done. That He has called you to stand and so you stand on faith that your marriage will be restored, but that if God has to break it before he remakes it, that no matter what you trust Him. He has a good and perfect plan and what looks to men's eyes to be the end for God is often a start to something much greater. I cried over our divorce papers when God pressed me serve my husband and begged God to use this for His good. And no matter what, I trust Him and His will be done. That day was the beginning of the end. It was the day Chris started coming back to church with me. Trust me brother. He does have a plan for you and it is for your good. Not just your good but your best. Believe that. Listen to "Hope in front of me" by Danny Gokey when you have a moment. I would also suggest watching the video. It is very encouraging to just say to God, even though I can't see through this fog, I can see you in front of me and I will trust you to lead me. I will follow.

Tyler, I can only imagine how hard this must be. But as our friends have already said, our God is bigger and He has a perfect plan. I will be praying for strength, faith, courage, and patience for you, and for healing and guidance for your wife.

Brother man my heart hurts with and for you, my date as well is fast approaching. Keep your head up, if you ever need someone to text or call I can get you my info. As I prayed about this earlier it wasn't a verse that God laid on me but a quote I read from somewhere so here it is...

Had I not fallen, I would not have arisen. Had I not been subject to darkness, I could not have seen the light. -MidRash-

I have it taped to the back of my door and read it along with a couple other sayings / verses, and everyone's name, doesn't make it any easier but for me it helps to start day off right