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Post by Mary H on Oct 27, 2016 7:47:55 GMT -5
I got a check in the mail yesterday from Tony's work. It was addressed to here instead o where he lives. He just started working again & he used to work for this company before, so I'm thinking that he just forgot to change his address with them. So I sent a text letting him know I have it & I can mail it to him if he wants me to. For some reason my phone isn't letting me send him a picture of the check (before when he would get a check he always asked for me to send a picture of it so he could make sure the numbers were right)
I'm asking for prayers that our communication go well & that his heart is softened. That God use this to draw Tony to Him.
Thank you!
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Post by Adrienne on Oct 27, 2016 14:06:45 GMT -5
I'm praying for this cause, Mary!
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Post by erika on Oct 27, 2016 18:26:27 GMT -5
Praying for you Mary !!!
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Post by Mary H on Oct 27, 2016 19:52:57 GMT -5
After no contact in months, he called in response to the text I sent about his check.
He wanted to get it today but said he doesn't want to see me or the kids. He's not ready. So I agreed to take it to his friends house and put it in their mail box.
Other than that we talked briefly about why he has nothing to do with the kids. He says he either wants to be all the way in their life or not at all; that he went through that as a kid & don't wana do that to our babies. Our 3 year old sons birthday is in a couple weeks. I asked if he has any ideas about a party & he said no .. he said he's going to be going forth with getting the divorce started soon. He said that he's going to do it online so that we don't have to go to court. I didn't know that was a option. I thought even if you do it online you still have a court date. But he said that's not the case. He said, "I don't really see myself being with you again." Then, as if he caught himself being soft, he said, "actually, I know I'll never be with you again. I'll be much happier alone" im not sure if this meant that he and the ow have split up or not but I'm not really concerning myself with that. I told him that I hate it for him & im sorry about this whole situation. He said, "you should've thought about that before" & so I just left it at that and said I'll keep praying for you. As I was saying bye he said, "thanks for taking up for me" (his mom is so upset that he won't get the kids and bring them to her house, & she came over a week or so ago going on & on about Tony & I just shared my faith with her & how tony is hurting & that I'm not going to push the kids on him if he's not ready)
He replied to my text when I told him I dropped off his check & he just said thanks. I simply replied, no problem, have a good day.
This is the first time we've had communication in such a long time .. typing it out somehow helps to process it a bit. Thank you all for your prayers
I'm going to take all of this to my journal & more prayer time
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Post by Adrienne on Oct 27, 2016 21:02:05 GMT -5
Hi Mary, thanks for updating us! I am glad you were able to have some peaceful communication even though I can understand how hard it must have been to hear what he had to say. I am taking this as a positive of now we know more about how to be praying for Tony in respect to his relationship with y'all's kids. It sounds like he has a lot of insecurity in that area so we should focus some special prayer there. I will continue praying for you both, for God's will and work to be done. I also encourage you to keep praying for fruit of the Spirit to flourish in your life! This is a prayer that I have to return to often and it is a great comfort and source of growth for me.
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Post by Sharon on Oct 28, 2016 1:11:02 GMT -5
Writing it all out helps me process too. It makes me laugh a little when people say things like "never" and "always". Our God is the God of the impossible and He makes a way where there is no way. Yes, Tony is still speaking from hurt, but you and I both know he is wrong sister. Tony can say what he wants but we know that God has made a promise and that's bigger then Tony's plans.
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Post by marissaa91 on Oct 29, 2016 2:37:34 GMT -5
I'm just now seeing this but thanks for the update! I'm glad you've had some communication even though it may not have been ideal or exactly kind. But it's a start and God turn it into something great. Hold tight to the dreams God's given you. I think Adrienne is right about the insecure area of Tony's life. I'll be praying about this. That God bring clarity to Tony and softens his heart in this area.
You are one of the strongest most faithful women I know. God is going to bless you immensely for your obedience and kindness.
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