From crosswalk.com

I don't know that I agree with giving up either. But it is hard to disagree with God's Grace being greater than all human understanding.

It is very hard for me to accept remarriage particularly one that is in my family. My uncle who was married to a woman that I strongly connected with and greatly related with is getting remarried he has been divorced from the first for about five years. I have yet to meet the woman he is to be remarried to.

I struggle with my own marriage and it's current status. I have felt defeated lately because I often loose the will to stand. And have much confusion over which direction we are headed. The ow is removed but the threat of another stepping in and quickly taking her place is not. I feel invisible to my husband. The good things that I do for him go unseen. And although I do much to thank him for all he does for our little family I do not feel as though he feels appreciated, or that his heart has changed any...

I'm not sure that my comment will help anyone, sorry for the ramble, Wendy just know this spoke to me too but it is unsettled. Oh the tears...

God bless and praying for all!

Leanna,

God, doesn't want divorce, but in his grace and mercy if both husband and wife have given up and their hearts have turned hard towards each other, I can see him allowing the blessing of marriage again. I have a different view than most here as I have been previously married. This isn't something I am proud of, but this is my 3rd marriage. The first time I got married when I was 17,and was divorced at 19. She was older than me (4 years) and wanted children right away. I didn't feel I could support us and children. This was a sticking point for her and we separated and within 6 months she was remarried.

I was devastated and swore I would never marry again. That I wasn't going to be hurt like that again. It was 4 years later when I met my second wife. We actually met in an online game and spent months getting to know her before I even spoke to her on the phone. We lived 10 hours apart. She moved to go to Grad school and I moved in with her. We were married and she continued school. We found a home for sale in the town she grew up in from some family friends and a job opened up in her teaching field (Computer Science a a local University). She got the job and we made an offer on the house. The job was contingent on her finishing her PhD. It came down to the deadline for her degree and they gave her an extension, and it still wasn't complete in time. One night I caught her having cyber sex with someone she met in an online game... I tried to work things out, was willing to forgive and move on, and she was completely closed to the idea. We separated and the divorce went through. Again, I swore I wasn't getting married ever again. The hurt was worse being rejected by someone else, all over again.

My wife was talking to a mutual friend and asked if he knew any good single guys, and he gave her my contact info. So, one day I get a random message from this woman on Facebook saying we have a mutual friend. I told her I wasn't sure I was ready for any kind of relationship, but that I could always use more friends. Eight and a half months later we were married. I prayed hard. I prayed often that if this was what God wanted me to do. I didn't want to get hurt again. She had gotten divorced from her ex when my stepdaughter was 15 months old and I met them when she was 5. We both agreed that cheating wasn't an option, that neither of us wanted to be cheated on, and neither of us wanted a divorce.

Cut to the beginning of my stand, and I am a great guy, she loves me, but she isn't "in love" with me... I have asked God for confirmation and direction, over and over again to verify I am doing as he wants me to. Every time I have asked, I have gotten an answer to stay.

I wish my first marriage had worked, it would have saved me a lot of heartache, but God used it to grow me as a person. The same thing for the 2nd marriage. After 7 years of marriage I never expected it to end. It completely took me by surprise. And I tried to stand, but didn't know how. Eventually, I felt I failed at that too and gave up. That is my one true regret in life. Not that I gave up on my wife, but that I gave up on God... I refuse to do that again. If the answer comes down to no, I am not supposed to be here. I will still love my God, and my wife. It will take a burning bush experience to know it came from God.

So, I do see remarriage as a valid marriage. Not something that God necessarily wants, but he doesn't want murder, drunkenness, or adultery. Moses murdered an Egyptian, Noah was a drunkard, and David had an affair with Bethsheba. God uses our brokenness to shine that much brighter on his glory and mercy.

I probably shared way too much, and apologize for the wall of text.

Wow! Awesome testamony Eric!!! So true! Thanks for sharing!