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Post by tkk2 on Oct 19, 2016 6:17:15 GMT -5
We have our fifth counseling session tomorrow. So far they've all been anger and lash out at me sessions. I've had very little opportunity to talk. Right now I see that our counselor is strategically allowing this. In the last session, Dana started in on my family. Went on and on. I finally challenged him to say something nice. It honestly took him several minutes to come up with something.....i often wonder how/why god put 2 such negative people in my life.....my husband and daughter. It's so hard to stay up lifted when they are constantly pulling me down. Anyway after the last session I was done. Done trying, done standing......so done. My heart was crushed. I realized about a week later....that this is a new way for the enemy to attack. Dana has barely spoken or texted me the last 10 days. He invited our daughter over last Friday to his place.....made dinner. I was encouraged because our separation has cost them both a lot in their relationship. This was a first step of rebuilding for both of them. I saw my daughter on Saturday and she mentioned that there was a divorce book on his table. She asked him what he's doing the rest of the weekend and he mentioned a woman who wanted to take him to a concert. He told her he wasn't going to go and he didn't. How is it that he still has contact and wants to be in marriage counseling at the same time? It's the enemy, i know. I'm feeling run down and a bit weak emotionally... So, your prayers are needed. I just love you all so much! Thank you for always being such a source of encouragement!
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Post by Adrienne on Oct 19, 2016 7:49:54 GMT -5
Hi Timi, I agree that your counseling sessions are definitely a new outlet for enemy attacks. I will be praying extra for you before these sessions. A thought I just had was that you should pray for the armor of God (Ephesians 6) before each session- maybe in the car on the drive over. I would also recommend that you pray over the actual counseling space for the Holy spirit to cleanse it of the enemy's influence. And remember (as your counselor seems to be thinking too) that Dana probably needs some time to get out this buried anger before he can really heal. I have a tendency to be quite negative too so I can sympathize- it is something I have had to learn to purposefully combat, but that doesn't come easy.
I also had a thought regarding how Dana seems to be keeping his options open: still talking with other women while also seemingly working towards reconciliation with you... this is something that G did too. Supposedly he had already decided to end his affair (before I knew about it) and be with only me, yet he continued talking with the OW for months. I honestly think this comes from a place of insecurity and fear. It's like they're keeping that other door open just in case their covenant marriage doesn't work out. But in reality it's not anything to do with YOU... it's a reflection of their lack of faith in GOD. I encourage you to keep praying for increased faith for Dana and for clear signs showing Him God's will.
I'll keep praying for you too!
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Post by Mary H on Oct 19, 2016 8:21:01 GMT -5
It's completely normal behaivor for him to do that. Please go to RMM & see where the Lord leads you. They tell about how Bob was after he came home. Don't let the enemy discourage you. Full restoration is near! Gods glory & a rescued soul! Dont give up sister! Praying for you
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Post by Eric W. on Oct 19, 2016 13:44:08 GMT -5
What time is the session tomorrow? So, we can be praying at that time for all of you?
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Post by tkk2 on Oct 19, 2016 15:30:10 GMT -5
3:00 Thursday...Colorado Mountain time Thank you!!
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Post by Eric W. on Oct 19, 2016 19:52:15 GMT -5
Got a reminder set in my phone. We will be praying with and for you both sister. God bless.
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Session 5
Oct 19, 2016 23:37:56 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by marissaa91 on Oct 19, 2016 23:37:56 GMT -5
I'll be praying for you tomorrow. Try not to dwell on it and just try and rest in the Lord's peace.
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Post by tkk2 on Oct 21, 2016 6:17:33 GMT -5
Update...session was calmest so far...I'm so grateful for that. Thanks for your prayers. I think praying over the building helped.
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Post by Mary H on Oct 21, 2016 10:48:20 GMT -5
Praise God!! Thank you Lord!
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Post by Sharon on Oct 22, 2016 21:09:16 GMT -5
Hey TK I am sorry I haven't been on in a while but I just saw this post. I am praying. As soon as my friends are gone to bed and my kids are down I'm staying up with the Lord tonight and I will be praying for you tonight.
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