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Post by tschnelli on Oct 16, 2016 10:30:56 GMT -5
Saw my wife for the first time in over a month. She came to take the rest of her stuff out of our place. It started out cordial and she was being sweet, but it quickly changed.
She started crying and said she wasted the last few years of her life. Said I stifled her life and she was finally able to live. She kept speaking lies that were hurtful and untrue, but God was there. He gave me words and a calm heart. She kept asking why I was still here; waiting. I got the opportunity to talk about the covenant and forgiveness (all of which is familiar to her). I told her that I am standing in the gap in her absence. She cried. She told me to stop. To get over it and move on.
When she stopped crying and talking with me, she stood up, told me she was filing next week and walked out. I responded with love and grace. She rolled her eyes and drove off.
Please pray for her. My soul aches for hers and her life. I couldn't sleep last night. Dreams were real and I woke up in tears to this life and the truth that she is still gone. I found comfort in the fact that there are two outcomes, and God will use the one that brings him more glory. I was even able to share that with her yesterday. She seems so lost and confused. Please pray for my wife.
Thank you all. I don't really know you that well, but you are becoming a great community for me. I love you guys. Have a blessed Sunday.
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Post by Mary H on Oct 16, 2016 11:43:52 GMT -5
Satan has a stronghold on her but with your uneaivoring faith in Jesus, He will pull her out of it in perfect timing.
Praying for you both
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Post by Eric W. on Oct 16, 2016 16:19:04 GMT -5
That's part of what love is though. It's you giving a piece of yourself to them, because you care about them that much. They can nurture it and return in kind, they can use that piece to hurt, manipulate, or deceive us. It's like any other gift. It doesn't matter what they do with it. You hope they can find some use, some joy, get something out of it. But even if it just sits in a closet somewhere, that is something you gave them, because you care.
God gave us grace the same way. He gives us all a piece of him (Holy Spirit) and we can choose to make use of, and find joy through, or we can place it on a shelf.
Praying for you both brother.
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Post by marissaa91 on Oct 16, 2016 21:54:01 GMT -5
I'm sorry, I know it must have been hard to go through that but the way you responded with grace, love, and humility is amazing! Keep praying and being loving even if she's lashing out. She's confused by your actions and that's the only way she knows how to respond because she's holding onto hurt. I recognize it because that's how my husband was when he left. He was covered in the spirit of confusion and temptation. I had dreams of it when he was gone. But keep standing in the gap, keep praying and God will bring good out of this. Follow God's path for you and He will surely bless you for being obedient and holding true to your vows. I'll definitely be praying for you and your wife.
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Post by Adrienne on Oct 16, 2016 21:57:18 GMT -5
I'm sorry Tyler because I know this must have been a really painful experience for you. My husband has often been the exact same way: telling me I should just get over it and move on, just divorce, "whatever." But then there are these moments where he seems to have clarity and tells me thank you so much for putting up with him, thanks for still being here. I know your wife is confused and struggling; she doesn't know what is best and when our prodigals are in those moments, I think the easiest option is just to run for the hills. But praise God that He still speaks; He still moves. It is an awesome testimony that you were able to speak love and grace into your wife's life even if she didn't want to hear it. I know in faith that one day she will appreciate it. I'll continue in prayer for you both.
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Post by tschnelli on Oct 16, 2016 22:59:40 GMT -5
Thank you all so much. Reading your responses helped calm me down. It's times like right now that things hurt the most. I'm alone at night, laying here wondering about her and her heart. My loneliness gets the best of me. I really do appreciate you all. Thank you.
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Post by Sharon on Oct 16, 2016 23:45:25 GMT -5
Tyler I am praying for you brother. And I am praying for your wife and please continue to pray for her and love her, despite her actions. She is obviously very hurt and confused and is allowing the enemy to lie to her. As her spouse, you have the power to command evil spirits away from her. Please do this often. You will see miracles begin when you can get rid of the demonic hold on her. God has a lot of healing to do on her heart, but don't give up. If you haven't heard it, listen to this song Press On by Building 429. It's very encouraging to me when I am feeling defeated.
Philippians 3:13-14 Forgetting what is behind and straining towards what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Thank you for sharing this. I know this is so hard for you brother, but remembering these verses and listening to this song has lifted me today from a really dark place I am in.
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Post by tschnelli on Oct 18, 2016 1:26:38 GMT -5
I do Sharon. Thank you for the encouragement. I really appreciate it. I'll check out the song tomorrow.  |
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