Post by Mary H on Sept 21, 2016 9:14:10 GMT -5
My parents support me finacially.
I have my two toddlers, my nephew, & my autistic brother who I care for.
They offered for me to stay home instead of get a job. But it's like we are a peice of property that they purchas.. Like they arnt doing it for the right reasons at all! Not that it's really expected because they arnt Christ followers, but it's getting bad. They offer their opinion & question things way to much. They are way overly involved with things of my parenting.. They claim they help & provide because they want to simply be helpful, but true colors are showing boldly. They have been off work for 3 months for medical reasons & have been here. They are going back in a few days. They are completely delusional! They say this is their home but they don't live here! They work in Ohio & have a apartment there, but they say this is their where they live.. They despritly need to be needed.. To the point that they literally force it! Now that they are getting ready to go back to Ohio, they are on extra mode!! Everytime my kids cry or yell my dad comes in here like only he can defuse the situation but doesn't it like he's just going to the bathroom.. Well today he actually questioned why couldn't my son play with the car track (he wouldn't share) & I kinda snapped & told him to stop coming in here everytime my kids cry & it's not his place. He then said yes it is my place and I'll do what I want in my house... Oh Jesus... Me and my dad fought like cats & dogs when I was a teenager. Physically at times.. Since I moved out when I was 17, our realationship healed.. But now I'm being so tempted to lash out at him...
I have to go forth with getting a job.. My parents have serious mental issues. That's why they have been out of work on medicle.. They are horders & now are basically convinced that I cannot manage my family without them when I very clearly can & have & do!
It's so hard for me that they basically use my kids & I as a drug to get the high of feeling needed.. It's so very toxic to me & the kids lives! My dad likes to pretend he's their dad & my step mom lords over me at times.. It's not healthy for anyone involved. My dad even mentioned he would quit his job in Ohio & get a job here and live here to help me... Oh Jesus please don't allow this! I'm going to talk to them but I've already talked to them several times in the past & it hasn't made a lasting difference. All I can really do is pray.
I have my two toddlers, my nephew, & my autistic brother who I care for.
They offered for me to stay home instead of get a job. But it's like we are a peice of property that they purchas.. Like they arnt doing it for the right reasons at all! Not that it's really expected because they arnt Christ followers, but it's getting bad. They offer their opinion & question things way to much. They are way overly involved with things of my parenting.. They claim they help & provide because they want to simply be helpful, but true colors are showing boldly. They have been off work for 3 months for medical reasons & have been here. They are going back in a few days. They are completely delusional! They say this is their home but they don't live here! They work in Ohio & have a apartment there, but they say this is their where they live.. They despritly need to be needed.. To the point that they literally force it! Now that they are getting ready to go back to Ohio, they are on extra mode!! Everytime my kids cry or yell my dad comes in here like only he can defuse the situation but doesn't it like he's just going to the bathroom.. Well today he actually questioned why couldn't my son play with the car track (he wouldn't share) & I kinda snapped & told him to stop coming in here everytime my kids cry & it's not his place. He then said yes it is my place and I'll do what I want in my house... Oh Jesus... Me and my dad fought like cats & dogs when I was a teenager. Physically at times.. Since I moved out when I was 17, our realationship healed.. But now I'm being so tempted to lash out at him...
I have to go forth with getting a job.. My parents have serious mental issues. That's why they have been out of work on medicle.. They are horders & now are basically convinced that I cannot manage my family without them when I very clearly can & have & do!
It's so hard for me that they basically use my kids & I as a drug to get the high of feeling needed.. It's so very toxic to me & the kids lives! My dad likes to pretend he's their dad & my step mom lords over me at times.. It's not healthy for anyone involved. My dad even mentioned he would quit his job in Ohio & get a job here and live here to help me... Oh Jesus please don't allow this! I'm going to talk to them but I've already talked to them several times in the past & it hasn't made a lasting difference. All I can really do is pray.
