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Post by william on Aug 31, 2016 17:37:10 GMT -5
Dear family of standers,
I come to you because I am confused, lost, & uncertain. I ask if you don't mind please pray for discernment for me to hear God. Recently I have been contemplating moving back to Texas (born & raised have all family there) (currently in Louisiana) back home with my parents. I have prayed, made lists of pros & cons, fasted, begged & pleaded with God for direction...nothing just quiet...
The divorice will be final in January, our anniversary is this October 3 so I don't really know if it's the culmination of it all. I have no idea where she stands because she refuses to speak to me or acknowledge my existence.
I am under huge amounts of stress at work to go along with the battle of standing. I went to the doctor cause I had some chest discomfort the EKG showed some "minimal changes" recommended me to see a specialist. She has begun to remove all the pictures of us two, & family from the house.
I just feel that I'm being attacked from every source...earthly and spiritually. I am still standing firm, I love my wife, I love our kids. I feel absent from God, yet I know he is here...sorry for the rambling post - I just don't know...
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Post by Adrienne on Aug 31, 2016 18:36:17 GMT -5
William, I don't have any concrete advice for you, simply because we as humans don't have the right answers. Only God does... I can tell you that I understand how hard it is to feel lost. Recently I too have felt distant from God even though I know He's right here with me. I'm going to start praying for this cause tonight, for clarity and for strength.
I feel like I have more to say to uplift you, but I don't have the right words yet - I'll think and pray on it and come back!
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Post by Mary H on Aug 31, 2016 21:43:24 GMT -5
The enemy is definatly who is causing this confusion & distance... I really feel like shortly after the divorce has gone through, she is goi h to wake up.. I hope you don't move far from her but I'm not God and have no clue what He wants you to do. When He doesn't answer, He wants you to wait. This is a time of excersizing your spiritual muscle & wait upon the Lord knowing He will make it clear in the perfect timing. This is just another area of growth.. I love the growing seasons but man can they be uncomfortable!
Are you taking each thought captive to Christ?
Is there anything thing that could be hindering your prayers? Ask the Lord to show you.. Search yourself & see if theirs anything g that you need to repent about. God has big plans for you & your marriage William; don't get weary brother.. I know how hard it is.. I feel like being in the word, in prayer, worship, church, RMM, & chatting with you all is another world compared to actually facing the reality of the OW, my husbands hate toward me, divorce, split custody... When I think of it all too much, I get discouraged & even afraid at times.. Like I just want to run away.. But I can't.
I'm praying for you! God is so good to us even in our affliction.
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Post by tkk2 on Aug 31, 2016 21:56:17 GMT -5
William, my first thought is write a pros-and-cons list with reconciliation in mind, not the emotions of divorce. Perhaps a new location home in Louisiana, so that when your "suddenly" starts to happen your are close. I can tell you it happens fast....with my husband it was zero communication for close to 20 months then, out of the blue, he's texting me and "stopping by without a reservation". I was less than 48 hours from divorce when he finally came to his senses. Now, we text a little, he comes by a little. I just think you would be closing a door by moving too far away. It's heartbreaking to stand, i know, we all do....but imagine the evil that is thrown in our prodigals faces daily. Don't give up on her, because Christ hasn't given up on you. Be strong and courageous, remember you are fighting a spiritual battle with Satan, not your wife. I'm praying for your wisdom, discernment and guidance brother!
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Post by leandro on Sept 1, 2016 9:58:14 GMT -5
William, my brother we all go through these type of moments but believe me you will get through it, and God will show his mighty power. Keep strong William I will have you in my prayers.
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Post by Eric W. on Sept 1, 2016 15:13:51 GMT -5
Brother,
I have no doubt you are waiting on a word from God for guidance. Our brothers and sisters here have already given godly wisdom. I agree that times of silence are when we are to "be still, and know" that he is God. I advise against making any decisions out of wanting to move forward in some way. I think that is why my wife went ahead and filed for divorce. I will be praying with you brother.
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Post by Sharon on Sept 1, 2016 17:46:01 GMT -5
I can't remember who said it the other day, but someone said it is okay to give up on your stand. Not that you throw away your vows and date someone else, but that you give up on the focus of "our marriage will be restored" and instead put your focus on "in that aspect of my life, your will be done Lord and my eyes are on you." I am not saying going to Texas is right or not, but if it is going to help loose the focus on your wife back to focus on God, it's not a bad plan. I will say though anytime it was God telling me something it was confirmed several different times to me (reading something in a verse, a friend talking to me, something said in a sermon, etc). Dig into the word before you make any decisions
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Post by william on Sept 2, 2016 17:45:12 GMT -5
Thank you all,
Y'all are right, it is an attack of the enemy. I know God is w/me, despite not hearing from him. It's just the culmination of everything - wife not acknowledging I'm alive, her removing all pictures of us, & us with kids, stress at work and so on - the enemy has used those things to cast doubt. I know Gods direction has not changed for me. I will be staying in Louisiana the move to Houston is not right for me at this time. As I was praying today I had life songs on in the background when asked God what am I to do, the songs "thy will be done" followed by "broken together" came on...which gave me the confirmation I have been so desperatly seeking. I will continue walking my path that God has laid before me knowing that even though I am in the desert he is with me & will guide me to the promise land of restoration.
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Post by Mary H on Sept 2, 2016 20:15:05 GMT -5
So glad to read your update William!
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Post by Adrienne on Sept 2, 2016 21:16:38 GMT -5
William thanks for your update!
I have been off the page for a couple days but ever since I read your original prayer request, I couldn't get the songs "Thy will be done" and "I will trust in you" (both popular on K-love) out of my head... I kept thinking I needed to share both songs with you. Your testimony about how God spoke to you through one of the songs on the radio just reminds me that He always speaks, one way or another! I'm sorry I dropped the ball about sharing that with you earlier on, but I praise God for His amazing way of always being with us!
I'll continue in prayer for you, friend!
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Post by Sharon on Sept 4, 2016 23:26:04 GMT -5
Still praying for you William and I'm so glad God is speaking. I think we've all been slacking and letting the enemy find footholds in us recently. We all need to start pressing in more! I think we should all make it a habit to check in at least once a week and hold each other accountable. Our journey with God is a daily relationship, not an occasional passing.
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Post by Mary H on Sept 5, 2016 9:11:08 GMT -5
Amen Sharon!
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Post by Adrienne on Sept 5, 2016 20:27:18 GMT -5
Amen, Sharon.
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Post by pstokes522 on Sept 8, 2016 8:15:18 GMT -5
Amen Sharon - I know I've been absent lately. I tell myself that it's because I have faith that God is going to restore, so I don't need to devote so much time to 'standing' - which is probably true. BUT, I do need to continue to devote my time to God, and I haven't been doing so lately. Pray that I get back on track.
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