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Post by tschnelli on Aug 10, 2016 14:16:09 GMT -5
Hey all, My wife walked out over two months ago and has been living a lifestyle that is truly breaking my heart. I constantly pray for her heart, her soul, her safety and her relationship with the Father. I haven't seen her in almost a month (ever since she quit counseling) and haven't talked to her in weeks. Just now, she texted me out of the blue asking how I was doing and a second text asking if I was having any fun this summer. I told her I was doing alright and keeping busy. Working hard and traveling a bit lately. I don't know what this is or why she randomly hit me up. She has not returned any texts since she sent the second one. I guess I would just appreciate some prayer for my nerves/heart. I don't want to get my hopes up and squashed again. Pray for comfort. And please pray for my wife and her heart right now. Her name starts with an L and God will know who you're talking about.  Thanks guys. Didn't know who to talk to and ask advice. This group crossed my mind and being new, I was hesitant to post. But thank you all in advance for the support. I feel truly blessed. |
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Post by leandro on Aug 10, 2016 16:03:58 GMT -5
Hey Tyler, don't be hesitant to write in this group, you will get to know all of us and we all help each other in prayer and in whatever else we can help. On another note I think it's a good sign that your wife texted you that means that she is thinking about you and the Holy Spirit is moving something inside of her. The same thing happens with my wife she stops talking to me for days and then just out of nowhere she texts me for the most random reasons. Tyler I will pray for you brother and keep it up don't let anything distract you. God bless you.
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Post by tschnelli on Aug 10, 2016 16:51:33 GMT -5
Hey Tyler, don't be hesitant to write in this group, you will get to know all of us and we all help each other in prayer and in whatever else we can help. On another note I think it's a good sign that your wife texted you that means that she is thinking about you and the Holy Spirit is moving something inside of her. The same thing happens with my wife she stops talking to me for days and then just out of nowhere she texts me for the most random reasons. Tyler I will pray for you brother and keep it up don't let anything distract you. God bless you. Thanks Leandro. I really appreciate it. I have stopped reaching out, putting myself in position to get cut down and hurt, however, I have never stopped being here for her and wouldn't ignore her if she reached out. She asked how I was doing and talked a bit through text and then stopped. Was good to hear from her. Thank for the encouragement. |
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Post by tschnelli on Aug 10, 2016 18:36:31 GMT -5
So, hours later, she texted to ask if she could come over after I get off work to grab more of her things.....please pray for me. Pray I have the right words to say. That I may treat her in the most Godly way and just love her. Please pray for my words and my thoughts. I'm trying to not get my hopes up, but I am also trying to look at the situation as a way to continue to love her. I haven't seen her in weeks. I'm nervous.
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Post by tkk2 on Aug 10, 2016 21:42:26 GMT -5
Praying for you Tyler. I also think its good she texted, but it also sounds like she is needing some space. I pray for her protection while she's lost in the wilderness. I also pray for your guidance and wisdom. You are not fighting your wife....you are fighting a spiritual battle with Satan. So be on guard. I might suggest you watch War Room and Fireproof....both are encouraging for standers. Stay in prayer and reading...god's got this
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Post by tschnelli on Aug 10, 2016 22:44:29 GMT -5
Praying for you Tyler. I also think its good she texted, but it also sounds like she is needing some space. I pray for her protection while she's lost in the wilderness. I also pray for your guidance and wisdom. You are not fighting your wife....you are fighting a spiritual battle with Satan. So be on guard. I might suggest you watch War Room and Fireproof....both are encouraging for standers. Stay in prayer and reading...god's got this Thank you. She just left. We talked for two hours. Lots of tears. It was hard. I just kept telling her I love her, forgive her, and she can come home. She said she just doesn't want to be married right now. It hurt but was also good to see her. It's been over three weeks. She asked why I wasn't giving up and was still faithful. I told her I'll continue to stand in the gap and pray and fight for her. It was a good talk but also so confusing and I'm just looking for God to move. Thanks for the encouragement. |
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Post by william on Aug 11, 2016 0:06:44 GMT -5
Brother Tyler,
I'd like to suggest reading " battlefield of the mind" by Joyce Meyer it is a really good book & has helped me greatly. I will be praying for you, I know it's hard...but God will work in His time & reveal His glory. Stand firm, steadfast & eyes on Him.
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Post by marissaa91 on Aug 11, 2016 21:19:02 GMT -5
Tyler I can tell you from my own personal experience that this is definitely a step in the right direction. My husband started doing something similar to this after being gone a month. What I can suggest is be as loving and graceful as you can to your wife but give her the space she needs too. Try not to push too hard, this makes a difference even though it can be hard. Be firm in your faith and beliefs (don't compromise your beliefs if you can help it during this stand) and pray without ceasing. Prayer and giving my stand over to God is what really changed my stand. I got to a point where I said, "Lord you know my heart, I want this to work out but if it doesn't, you are enough." I'll be praying for you and your marriage. Be encouraged, God is moving even when you don't see it or feel it sometimes!
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Post by tschnelli on Aug 12, 2016 1:11:25 GMT -5
Tyler I can tell you from my own personal experience that this is definitely a step in the right direction. My husband started doing something similar to this after being gone a month. What I can suggest is be as loving and graceful as you can to your wife but give her the space she needs too. Try not to push too hard, this makes a difference even though it can be hard. Be firm in your faith and beliefs (don't compromise your beliefs if you can help it during this stand) and pray without ceasing. Prayer and giving my stand over to God is what really changed my stand. I got to a point where I said, "Lord you know my heart, I want this to work out but if it doesn't, you are enough." I'll be praying for you and your marriage. Be encouraged, God is moving even when you don't see it or feel it sometimes! Thank you Marissaa91. I really appreciate the encouragement. She texted me a little today too. I am trying to give her space too. Just loving her when she reaches out to me. Otherwise, I am just there praying for her. It's hard but God has got me. I have been so close to Him and it has been truly amazing. |
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Post by tschnelli on Aug 12, 2016 23:10:09 GMT -5
Tonight I saw her and dropped off a birthday gift. She hugged me and with tears in her eye, she wouldn't let go. When I left, I said, "I love you" and she, "I love you too". She hasn't said that since she left two months ago.
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Post by leandro on Aug 13, 2016 10:23:39 GMT -5
Tyler that's great news, you have to keep pressing hard in prayers for your wife, and like Marissa said give her some space so the Holy Spirit can do the work while you battle in prayer. God bless you man and you are on the right track.
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Post by tschnelli on Aug 13, 2016 13:13:42 GMT -5
Tyler that's great news, you have to keep pressing hard in prayers for your wife, and like Marissa said give her some space so the Holy Spirit can do the work while you battle in prayer. God bless you man and you are on the right track. Thanks Leandro. I saw her twice this week after not seeing her for a month. It felt good to see her and I know I need to give her space to let the Spirit work. It's so hard though. In all honesty, I feel like If I give her space, she will just turn away and toward other guys. I know that is the enemy.... And I know I need to trust the Father. It's just hard. Thank you for all the encouragement. |
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Post by william on Aug 13, 2016 14:26:24 GMT -5
Glad you got to see & talk with her brother. Remember our stands aren't a sprint but a marathon. Keep putting your focus on the only thing you can control which is the relationship w/ our Father, praying and spending time in His words. Praying for you brother.
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Post by tschnelli on Aug 13, 2016 17:04:31 GMT -5
Glad you got to see & talk with her brother. Remember our stands aren't a sprint but a marathon. Keep putting your focus on the only thing you can control which is the relationship w/ our Father, praying and spending time in His words. Praying for you brother. Thanks William. I am. My hope is in the Lord. He won't fail me. |
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Post by marissaa91 on Aug 13, 2016 20:57:56 GMT -5
That's amazing! Amen! Keep up the prayer, God is moving!
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