Post by marissaa91 on Aug 4, 2016 14:29:09 GMT -5
So my husband and I have this thing after we say 'I love you' sometimes. Sometimes we'll say, "Do you? Well why?"
Sometimes it's more of a joke and we laugh say "Shush, you know I love you." And we kiss. Other times we actually talk about why we love each other.
I thought I'd bring it up because sometimes, and I don't know if it's just me, I actually have to dig pretty deep sometimes for reasons for why I love him. I'd never say that to him but sometimes it's really hard for me come up with reasons. I actually think it's good that we do this for 2 reasons.
1. It shows me my own heart. It's easy to say I love him but when I struggle at times to come up with reasons why I know I need to work on that. I'm currently trying to work on not focusing so much on the negative so that I can see the good too. I want to see him how God does but that can be hard.
2. It usually shows us our partners heart. Even if my husband throws in some 'reasons' that are more of a joke than real reasons it makes me feel nice to hear why he loves me (even if it's small) and it also let's me know if he's struggling to find reasons too. I'm pretty good at reading my husband so I can tell if he's just not feeling it at the time. That let's me know we need to work on making things better.
Idk if it's something you all would want to try or not. I know some people can feel offended if asked why they love you after they say I love you. So it's just a suggestion. But I think even if you ask yourself, "why do I love my spouse?" From time to time can be a good way of assessing where our heart and mind really are.
Sometimes it's more of a joke and we laugh say "Shush, you know I love you." And we kiss. Other times we actually talk about why we love each other.
I thought I'd bring it up because sometimes, and I don't know if it's just me, I actually have to dig pretty deep sometimes for reasons for why I love him. I'd never say that to him but sometimes it's really hard for me come up with reasons. I actually think it's good that we do this for 2 reasons.
1. It shows me my own heart. It's easy to say I love him but when I struggle at times to come up with reasons why I know I need to work on that. I'm currently trying to work on not focusing so much on the negative so that I can see the good too. I want to see him how God does but that can be hard.
2. It usually shows us our partners heart. Even if my husband throws in some 'reasons' that are more of a joke than real reasons it makes me feel nice to hear why he loves me (even if it's small) and it also let's me know if he's struggling to find reasons too. I'm pretty good at reading my husband so I can tell if he's just not feeling it at the time. That let's me know we need to work on making things better.
Idk if it's something you all would want to try or not. I know some people can feel offended if asked why they love you after they say I love you. So it's just a suggestion. But I think even if you ask yourself, "why do I love my spouse?" From time to time can be a good way of assessing where our heart and mind really are.
