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Post by Adrienne on Jul 13, 2016 20:48:55 GMT -5
I will be praying for you Lindsey, this is a wonderful praise and I know God will be by your side through this period (as always!!)
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Post by Sharon on Jul 15, 2016 22:37:15 GMT -5
"Ok, I tell you what" as if he's been speaking to you for a while now. Someone is speaking to him and convicting that man! God is at work here! God spoke to his heart and pushed him so hard, that he couldn't say no and had to reach out. I don't think it's a trick. But I don't think you should go out of your way to meet his terms either. God told him to reach out to you, but probably not with demands and anger and if he is listing demands, it's because he is still resisting God to a degree. He will obey, but with his own terms in place. Still, I think you should find a way to go "pick him up" even if it means getting a cab. Spend the time with him. Show him your fruit! That you have changed. Go and see him with God as your main focus. And pursue God in the time that you spend together, not Andy. Definitely pray. Pray for strength. Pray for clarity. But I see God's hand on this. He has been working on Andy's heart for a long time (and Andy has been fighting and look...all the terms. He's still fighting), but God is not going to give up on him. Use this as an opportunity, NOT to fix your marriage, but to be an example of Christ's love. If he has God as his focus, your marriage will fall back on track naturally.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 16, 2016 10:12:59 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon  your words kind of confirmed what I was thinking. And also, that male pride in him, where maybe he knows that he wants to work on our marriage but he also wants to still remain tough and not give in completely, if that makes sense. I'm still pretty nervous about it all but I'm trusting in God to work it out. I asked God that if this matriage was going to work out, I needed to hear that Andy loves me... and he said it in that message... first time in a really long time. I cried hardest when I read those words. I just pray God continues to soften Andy's heart towards me and that whoever has been talking to him positively continues. Thank you again Sharon for helping me to remain hopeful that everything is gonna be ok!! |
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 16, 2016 10:52:15 GMT -5
Oh and I forgot to say, that his demands kind of hurt, but I'm trying to look past that bc I do feel like he wants to try to work things out. I waited over a day to reply and he sent me another message saying, so do you want to try this or not. So he does seem interested. I just hope his heart softens even more and he will look over the fact that I don't have my license yet. Even if I get it, I doubt I'd feel comfortable enough to drive and get him. And I don't know if he'd go for the cab idea. Eek I'm just so nervous about this all but so ready to see him.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 16, 2016 11:31:16 GMT -5
14 days until our date and I'm so nervous. I'm ready to be home. I'm so scared I won't have my license and even if I got it, I don't have confidence to drive the 40 min to pick him up. I'm so scared that this is another false start or something. I don't like Andy's demands but I don't want to make him angry. Gah I'm going crazy ha, sorry for the rant!
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Post by Eric W. on Jul 16, 2016 12:20:32 GMT -5
It's easy to get into the "walking on eggshells" mode where you worry about how they are going to react, but really, I don't want to sound harsh, but it doesn't matter. I do the same thing any time I know I am going to interact with my wife. I have to remind myself that our loving God is bigger than any anger, or situation that may arise. Trust your father to lead you through whatever happens.
If it is difficult and doesn't happen how you want, then trust God's timing.
If it goes amazing, then know he is blessing you and your marriage.
It isn't anything that you or Andy decide. It's in God's hands, in his timing.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 16, 2016 13:08:43 GMT -5
Thank you Eric, you're so right. I'm such a planner and want control, can you tell?!? I need to give it completely to God and sometimes that's hard, so thank you for the reminder.
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Post by Eric W. on Jul 16, 2016 14:08:14 GMT -5
I remind myself of that as often as anyone else. That's what we are here for is to help support each other. I will be praying for you sister.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 16, 2016 18:15:40 GMT -5
Thank you so much Eric, I'm grateful for you and everyone in this group!!
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Post by Sharon on Jul 18, 2016 23:29:10 GMT -5
Hey Lindsey! I really don't think you should panic. I completely agree with Eric, and to add to that, remember that God uses all things for His good. This date is past for God. He already knows how this turns out. Hold on to the promises He has made for your future with Andy. If restoration and a God centered marriage is at the end, this small little piece doesn't matter so don't panic! Just allow Gods love to pour out of you. Be quick to listen, slow to speak. Listen to Gods voice before you say any thing. And please remind us before your date so that we can cover you in prayer! My prayer for you is that Gods words would come straight from your mouth so that Andy would be completely aware and positive that you are a child of God and He is your God.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 22, 2016 11:50:48 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon. I'm going to try my best not to panic. I also just found out my mom will be out of town the day of our date, so I won't even have her car to drive if/when I get my license. I'm doing my best to stay calm and trust in God!!! Whew, I'm going a little crazy lol  I'm so ready to be with my husband!!! |
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Post by Sharon on Jul 22, 2016 22:08:19 GMT -5
God is setting you up for a miracle here Lindsey! Where there is no way He MAKES a way! Like Hebrews at the Red Sea, God created a way. Keep your faith sister!
Listen to "Make A Way" by Desperation Band on YouTube when you get a chance. It really built my faith when I was feeling hopeless.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 22, 2016 23:09:33 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon, I sure hope so! I'm so worried. I don't want to get excited only to have him be angry at me again. Thank you for that song recommendation |
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Post by Sharon on Jul 24, 2016 13:01:56 GMT -5
I know it's scary, but press into God now. Don't let your husband be your god. If you are going with the mindset that you Only need God and no matter what Andy acts like, you are there with God beside you and you are there to follow after God and be Gods love in flesh, you will be happy no matter what. Andy may try to be mean, but Jesus loved us even when we killed him. He forgave us as He died. And if you can be Jesus love to Andy, then even if he is being cruel, you can be loving.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jul 28, 2016 11:19:32 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon. I'm so on edge each day that gets closer to the date day (Saturday) but I'm trusting in God no matter what happens. Everything you said is totally correct though. And I'm also having to really "zip the lips" and be loving towards Andy no matter what. He's gotten to be mean, lay out his demands... I never get to say anything and I've been so nice. It's been very difficult but I'm really hoping we'll be able to sit down and communicate everything that we need to do and say to fix our marriage. We've had so many false start . I'm just ready for the restoration process to begin!
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your words kind of confirmed what I was thinking. And also, that male pride in him, where maybe he knows that he wants to work on our marriage but he also wants to still remain tough and not give in completely, if that makes sense. I'm still pretty nervous about it all but I'm trusting in God to work it out. I asked God that if this matriage was going to work out, I needed to hear that Andy loves me... and he said it in that message... first time in a really long time. I cried hardest when I read those words. I just pray God continues to soften Andy's heart towards me and that whoever has been talking to him positively continues. Thank you again Sharon for helping me to remain hopeful that everything is gonna be ok!!
I'm so ready to be with my husband!!!