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Post by leandro on Jun 27, 2016 9:27:31 GMT -5
Well, Saturday night I decided to tell my wife to please stop talking to me, this was something that I had on my mind for a few weeks because I felt that everytime my wife feels alone or in need of something she calls me and I'm always there for her no matter what, but then there are times that she is busy with other things that she doesn't even notice that I am alive. I know this may sound childish but I feel like this is not gonna change if I don't put a stop to it. She keeps on talking to that other guy because everytime I see her online on a chat app the other guy is online too, and this happens very often. I told her this week that I have a dream of becoming a dad and having a family with her but she says that she doesn't see that anymore and that all of those dreams are dead to her, though she can't stop calling me or texting me for any random reason. I prayed to God and He has given me peace of what I'm about to do, she hasn't call me or texted me since i took this decision so I haven't told her to stop texting me or calling me; that I need to be more focus in God and in me instead of waiting for a call or a text all day long. Brothers and sisters in Christ if you have anything in your spirit that you want to suggest to me please do so, as I take whatever you guys tell me here very seriously.
Thank you and God bless you all, I keep you in my prayers.
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Post by Mary H on Jun 27, 2016 12:36:52 GMT -5
If you are sure this is somthing the Holy Spirit is guiding you to do, the by all means, yield toHis guidance & follow.
To me it sounds like your just getting tired. Be sure that it's not your emotions or weariness that is causing this choice. Are you making this choice because it would be best for her?
I'm praying for you brother
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Post by leandro on Jun 27, 2016 13:22:48 GMT -5
Maryh, I am very tired and weary, but I am not sure if this is the best choice for her, I feel like she acts to be strong but still she is so fragile. But again she just keeps contacting me because she knows I'm there for her and I never judge her or confront her even though I told her that I knew who she was talking to.
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Post by tkk2 on Jun 27, 2016 14:08:17 GMT -5
The underlying root cause here isn't the random contacts....thats just surface level playing out. You should have a serious conversation with her about possible causes. Pray the holy spirit guides your words, actions etc. Be strong
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Post by Sharon on Jun 29, 2016 8:06:01 GMT -5
Lord I pray you intervene here and speak a perfectly clear word to Leandro, so that he knows what you wants him to do here. Leandro, when I am not sure if what I am hearing is God or just selfishness I put it through my filter. Is this word that I am getting good and true. Good doesn't always mean pleasant or exactly what I want, but it always is righteous. Has God confirmed this to you several times in different ways? For example, did he give you the thought in a dream then back it up with a bible verse and then a confirmation from a friend? Something like this. God speaks clearly, but you have to lay down your hurt to hear His will. I know it is hard and if you have gotten this word from God, trust it!!! You have to act in obedience even if you don't want to. Because He has a plan and he has the whole picture. His plan is better than yours. If this is something you are deciding to do because you are tired, yes even that God will make good from, but please run this through your filter before you do it. It will be easier to follow Gods plans the first time!
I understand your exhaustion by the way and I know from experience that God does call us sometimes to do things like this. Because he is asking us to get out of the way so that He can do his work. I posted a devotional a few days ago called Sowing and Reaping that I believe would benefit you a lot brother. I know for me, I have been the kind to stand in Gods way and not allow Chris to reap the consequences of his actions - sadness, loneliness, etc. When I follow God, stand down, and get out of his way, He has done work on Chris's heart that I never thought possible. So I am saying this word could be from God and if it is please don't hesitate!
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Post by william on Jun 30, 2016 17:08:20 GMT -5
Brother Leandro,
I know the feeling, as I did / and do struggle with that as well. I do not speak to my wife at all - maybe 2-3 words if that once a week. Her statement to me when she filed / signed the divorce papers were "do not talk to me like we are together only about the kids". At first I would always text or call and ask about kids and after several days and countless hours praying and fasting God laid on me to stop reaching out. It was / is hard and it has not gotten any easier but my faith and dependence on God has grown significantly. Sometimes I get mad and think about the spec in her eye and then I remeber the log in mine.
Brother the verse I want to share is from 1 Peter 5:10
And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.
I rely on that verse everyday & more times in that day than I can count.
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Post by leandro on Jun 30, 2016 17:17:19 GMT -5
Well, I don't know if I should laugh or be worried. Saturday night when I took this decision to stop talking to my wife was the last day I talked to her after several days communicating everyday. It's like if she took the same decision as well. I guess the word on mark 10:8-9 it's very true...
"and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh."
Sharon, Tk, Maryh thank you for your prayers. Sharon I feel like she is trying to look for some peace with me and what she must really be looking is for God not for me, so I think this time she will rely on God instead of always calling me for help in whatever it is that she needs.
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Post by leandro on Jun 30, 2016 17:20:08 GMT -5
Wow William that verse I have it on a post it on my computer, and it's God confirming through you that that word in 1 Peter 5:10 will come to pass in my life. God bless your life for obeying the Holy Spirit and writing what you just wrote me. God bless you.
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Post by Sharon on Jun 30, 2016 19:33:12 GMT -5
Amen Leandro! I had a few moments like this with Chris too where God called me to get out of his way and stop being a safety net for Chris. It's really hard, but it forced him to press into God more
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