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Post by marissaa91 on Jun 2, 2016 17:44:59 GMT -5
So my husband quit smoking weed for about 3 weeks to a month now. And last night/today he's been talking about doing it again for his anxiety. He and I think, as well as a few others, that he has some mental illness that needs to be addressed but at the mention of pills and medication he squirms because he 1. Doesn't want to get addicted and 2. Doesn't want to go through the process of finding the right brand and amount of whatever he needs. So now he wants to do it for a medical use. So I told him my feelings are the same, I would rather he didn't but if he chooses to then as long as he's honest I won't get angry. But that if he goes to a doctor and they diagnosis him with a mental illness then he would have to go through the process to get a prescription. Without it, it's illegal where we are and I'm not gonna bail him out for it. I also told him that if that's the route he goes I would want him to see a Christian counselor as well because I would hope that he would learn to go to God when he's feeling anxious or depressed before anything else. He said ok, so we'll see what happens. He might smoke tonight idk. I wish he wouldn't. I hope I handled it well, I'll have to continue to pray about it.
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Post by Adrienne on Jun 2, 2016 18:14:00 GMT -5
It sounds like you addressed it very graciously and wisely, Marissa! I will pray for continued wisdom in this area for you and Garrett, and also for open communication.
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Post by Mary H on Jun 2, 2016 20:30:50 GMT -5
Praying for the Lord to guide you both
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Smoking
Jun 2, 2016 22:02:35 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by marissaa91 on Jun 2, 2016 22:02:35 GMT -5
Thank you both, he is going to smoke tonight with a friend of ours. But I told him that I'm not budgeting for this so if he chooses to do this then it's gonna come out of the money I already give him for lunch and his savings, that he has to continue to let me know what's going on, come home at a decent hour, and respect my feelings about it. He said ok and agreed. I will say though there is one road block in this. The person he use to go to that would give it to him for almost nothing is no longer his friend because of someone else. So I think that will slow it down until he figures out if he's gonna quit for good or try to do the medical route.
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Post by Mary H on Jun 3, 2016 12:45:36 GMT -5
Let Garrett go
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Smoking
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Post by Adrienne on Jun 3, 2016 18:00:27 GMT -5
Mary is everything ok?
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Post by Mary H on Jun 3, 2016 18:33:39 GMT -5
Yes. God is working on me with letting Tony go. To stop trying in my power to control this situation but to love him freely without any expectation, & to truly trust Him with each & every trial.
To let tony go & put the Lord in his place in my heart where He belongs.
A couple of posts I read today I felt a pull to just simply post "let them go."
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Post by Sharon on Jun 4, 2016 21:30:04 GMT -5
It sounds like Garrett is feeling guilt for smoking and wants to try to justify it somehow so he doesn't have to feel that. The nagging in his heart is God speaking to him and he's choosing to go against Him. I don't think this will end well, but Marissa I agree with Mary. Let it go and give this up to God. He is speaking and if Garrett chooses to not listen he reaps those consequences. Keep your focus on God and allow him to speak through you. What you said to him was right. It was convicting, not condemning.
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Post by marissaa91 on Jun 5, 2016 11:42:52 GMT -5
I'm gonna continue to pray about it. Thank you all. I really don't want to come across as holier than thou and judgmental. I want him to walk right but I have to know and remember that it comes in a different way and at different times for everyone.
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