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Post by annie on May 11, 2016 9:49:24 GMT -5
Well my worst nightmare has happened... The OW started adding my friends to her new Instagram which was a combo account for her and my ex. On that account she announces their engagement and that they are expecting. I am at a total loss for words right now. I just know I need prayers and will continue to need them in the coming months. I can't see how I will deal with this woman forever.
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Post by Sharon on May 11, 2016 13:36:16 GMT -5
I am praying for you Annie. I don't think you can believe all the crap these ow put out. I understand the frustration too though - one of the ow had a baby after Chris was with her and there was a chance it is his although she says it isn't his. It still upsets me and if it ever did come out it was his I think I would be finished, but God knows it's not something I could live with and He is protecting me. He won't give you more then you can handle either Annie and what he does give you, he plans so that you will be stronger and draw closer to him. I will keep praying and that is the best and most powerful weapon we have right now to fight the enemy.
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Post by annie on May 11, 2016 13:45:20 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon. I was being really strong and handling it really well, but the more I think about it- it feels like a building is on my chest. I can barely breathe. I'm just trying to make it until bedtime. My nerves are shot. Trying to focus on Jesus. Pray. Pray. Pray. It's hard to even focus on prayer though.
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Post by Adrienne on May 11, 2016 17:18:39 GMT -5
Annie I'm so sorry!! I can't imagine the pain you're experiencing. I will continue in prayer for you with this in mind. I know it's not much but my advice is to do your best not to think about it at all.. try to distract yourself and focus on God. Take it minute by minute. Keep fighting and just keep leaning into Him. I wish I could be there to give you a big hug :-( But I will be praying for you, friend.
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Post by annie on May 11, 2016 18:11:10 GMT -5
Thank you Adrienne. I wish you were here too! I'm trying really hard to press in and not give up. This is really heartbreaking and I just want it to not be real.  |
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Post by Sharon on May 11, 2016 19:08:32 GMT -5
One thing I do when it's a moment by moment thing like that where there's just no way to pull yourself out of the pit is just look at what is in front of you. Look at the road while you're driving and really focus just on that. If your cooking dinner keep your mind only on what is right in front of you at the moment. Anytime you start to feel your mind wandering, be strong and will yourself back to what you are doing right now. Especially if you spend some time with God reading your bible or praying. It will make a huge difference in your focus and God can speak to you better then
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Post by Mary H on May 11, 2016 19:13:25 GMT -5
Completely agree Sharon!
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Post by Adrienne on May 11, 2016 21:04:05 GMT -5
Sharon, you said that perfectly! This is exactly what I try to do when I am feeling so overwhelmed I just don't know how to handle it anymore. It really helps.
You can also vent here, Annie. We are all praying for you. And God has not forsaken you.
A thought that comes to me is that you may want to study the story of David. He went through so much and I'm sure there were many moments that he could have been tempted to think that there was no way out, no way to victory, but God lifted him up oh so high! God has a bigger and better plan than we do, and He has promised not to abandon His children. Don't give up. Try to focus on Him; He loves you and always will.
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Post by annie on May 12, 2016 10:53:09 GMT -5
Thank you ladies. This has been ever so hard. I had nightmares throughout the night and am now questioning if I was hearing from God or just interpreting my own thoughts/desires. I don't even know what is factual and what is OW causing drama. He apparently made her take all the IG profiles down after I confronted him. So at least there is that, but he completely ignored my texts/calls about it. I'm in shock that she has a ring on her finger-- just never in a million years expected that. I know this relationship is doomed, but having the patience and perseverance to see it through is tough. Esp if there is going to be a child that is not mine involved. I can barely type that. I pray that isn't the case and this is more of the OW craziness.
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Post by Adrienne on May 12, 2016 12:21:49 GMT -5
Annie, I continue in prayer for you. I'm glad he made her take the profiles down; that does show that he knows that her behavior is inappropriate. His unwillingness to talk to you about it directly may be a symptom of his guilt about the situation... my husband does the same thing; he tries to just avoid uncomfortable topics to make it easier on himself.
Also, I want to urge you again to try your best to turn your eyes away from the situation. I suggest that rather than praying for something not to happen (for example, for her not to have a child), just pray for God's will to be done; pray for Him to give you strength to face whatever happens; pray for Him to be present with you and be present in your marriage and your husband's life; pray for Him to convict hearts and bring forth light. For me there is a huge relief in not praying for certain elements of a hard situation but rather, surrendering the entire situation to God's best judgment... the thing is He knows so much better than we do! This has really helped me in my prayer life!
I know this is hard Annie. I can't imagine being in this situation and I admire you for your determination to keep fighting and just keep seeking God even though it's so hard. I know my own stand has been the hardest thing I've ever gone through (emotionally, mentally, spiritually) so I imagine it's the same for you. But remember God is with you and He promises that He has good plans for His children, He can turn anything to good for those that love Him. (Jeremiah 29:11, Romans 8:28). Remember God loves you so so much, Annie. Don't lose sight of that. **Big hugs!!**
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Post by marissaa91 on May 12, 2016 21:05:43 GMT -5
Oh, Annie I will be praying for you. I know this has to be hard, but the others are right. Try to just focus on right now and not the future. If you haven't heard "Thy Will" by Hillary Scott, you should give it a listen. It's been ministering to me the last few days and I think it would really speak to you in this moment.
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