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Post by Eric W. on Apr 26, 2016 18:02:48 GMT -5
So this is the text I found when I was walking to my car from work this evening. "OK let me begin by saying I do realize how sensitive and hurtful this situation is and for that reason I'm trying to make sure everything is in order so healing can begin. The lawyer contacted me today and so I went and signed the divorce agreement and paid the $. She said she would contact me to let you know when you could go sign but you would probably be able to go on the 11th or 12th. It will be filed and completed by 6/6. With that being done we need to arrange a time for you can get your stuff from the attic. "
I haven't spoken to her since we met to have some paperwork notarized. I am confused how she can honestly think this is going to bring any sort of healing. I hurt because of how twisted and turned around she has become from what I see in the Word. She thinks she is doing the right thing, and that's the sad part. I am not giving up, I am not turning away. I still don't feel like I can "fight" her and make her stay. That just doesn't feel right to me...
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 26, 2016 19:40:55 GMT -5
Eric, you know your wife. That's exactly how i feel with my husband. How can they not see this? Its so "plain as day" to us. Remember, Satan is the one causing all of this, confusing her heart and mind. Keep encouraging her with God and through your stand. You've prayed, now you have to believe with all your heart that god's got this.
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Post by william on Apr 26, 2016 21:08:00 GMT -5
Brother, I had that bridge a few weeks back. I had to sign the divorice papers that had been filed for her. I had told her where I stood and do as she requests and that by me signing the papers will not change my feelings, nor my stand.
I will be praying for you brother, praying hard because my heart is feeling the same pain again all over cause I know exactly what your going thru.
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 26, 2016 21:14:21 GMT -5
Eric, TK, my husband had the same justification when he was repeatedly threatening divorce. "It'll be a clean break, it'll hurt for a while, and then you'll be able to heal and get over it and not have to be suffering because of what I did anymore." I've thought a lot about it and I think honestly it is just a desire to escape... I think that maybe they don't think they're worthy or strong enough to fight for true healing, or they are convinced that the effort isn't worth it, so they just seek the easy way out. It's like a kid whose mom told him to fold his laundry and he didn't want to do the work, so he just shoves all the clothes under his bed... but then the clothes are wrinkly and dirty when he wants to wear them so it really didn't make things easier/better at all! Odd example but that's what came to me.
Keep praying, and I will keep praying as well... I know it's hard to know what to do but I will pray for God to guide.
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Post by Sharon on Apr 26, 2016 21:40:16 GMT -5
It's amazing how selfish a selfless act can be. She is convinced that she is doing good by you, when she is really just looking to relieve her own hurt feelings. Feelings are so deceptive and the enemy uses bad feelings to trap us into doing stupid things. She is being deceived Eric, but remember brother that God has called you to stand. He will not have called you to this if he intended it to end in destruction. He has a plan for you, a plan for good to give you hope and a future. Don't believe the enemies lies. This will not bring any peace and comfort to her, but you should take comfort in that fact, because God is going to use it for good. I am praying that it would revive her heart to seek after God again and that His true will would be revealed to her through that. Remember Jeremiah 29:11 brother. It is not over yet. Keep standing and fighting.
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