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Post by Eric W. on Apr 11, 2016 14:16:52 GMT -5
My wife texted me this afternoon. At least part of a text, she mentioned that we signed paperwork last year, and that she has to ask off for time a month in advance.
I assume the next part (which hasn't come yet) is to discuss divorce paperwork/trial. This text came a few hours ago and I have been on pins and needles since for the 2nd part to come.
I haven't responded, honestly not sure how to. I don't want this, but I can't "hold her hostage" by not signing... I will stand either way, just fearful and afraid right now.
I ask for prayer, not just for me, but for both of us. That God's will shine through and comfort, strength and wisdom be upon both of us.
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Post by Sharon on Apr 11, 2016 15:06:46 GMT -5
You've been heavy on my heart recently Eric. I am praying brother and please don't give up hope. God is working here
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Apr 11, 2016 15:34:32 GMT -5
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Post by Eric W. on Apr 11, 2016 15:48:24 GMT -5
She finished her text, and that is what it is about. Father, give me faith, courage, and hope. That your will be done. I am standing until God tells me not to, not some piece of paper.
I won't lie, I am hurt by this, I am devastated by this, but I know God put me in this storm for a reason, and I believe he is going to carry me through it to the other side.
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 11, 2016 16:51:07 GMT -5
Praying for you Eric. I know how discouraging it seems. I myself am waiting to be served....then it's 91 days. I would encourage you to stay positive for God's timing. She may be stubborn enough to need the piece of paper before she turns to god. I don't know but god has a plan for you. Stay strong and in prayer.
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Post by marissaa91 on Apr 11, 2016 17:13:24 GMT -5
Praying for you Eric! I'm sorry for this but yes God will carry through this. And no matter what happens God is still on your side.
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Post by Mary H on Apr 11, 2016 18:12:00 GMT -5
Praying
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Post by william on Apr 11, 2016 20:50:37 GMT -5
Brother,
My heart is hurting and I have tears in my eyes reading this because I know the pain your feeling...Don't give up hope, like I have said in one of my posts a piece of paper holds no authority over God and what he has revealed to my/our heart(s) thru prayer. I will be praying for strength and peace for you brother.
love ya - Will
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Post by pstokes522 on Apr 11, 2016 21:48:11 GMT -5
My husband filed in February and we will have our court date in a couple of weeks. I was devastated, but God reminded me that He has a plan & nothing will happen by human hands that He doesn't allow and have a way to use it for good. To be honest, since David filed, we have had more and better communication than we have had in three years. I already see a softening of his heart towards me. Hold on Eric, God has a plan for you too. Keep standing no matter what. I'm telling people, friends & coworkers mainly, on a daily basis that this is not the end, only a chapter. He's giving us an awesome testimony to share with the world!
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Post by Eric W. on Apr 11, 2016 21:58:43 GMT -5
Father, my heart is hurt, my spirit is bruised. My earthly eyes can't see how or when you will rebuild this brokenness. Lord, I hurt to the pit of me. The scared little boy that I am inside. The one who has faced this before, the one who knows the hurts, the doubts, the loneliness that is to come. His world is crumbling, in the imagination of his head, already things are gone.
But somewhere behind those walls from the past a glimmer of light still shines. A voice that says "Be still!" Lord, I know you knew this storm would be here before I was ever born. I know you have seen tomorrow's outcome like it was yesterday. That you will use this to grow me, to mold me into who you would have me be. Take my broken pieces and my tears and work me into a vessel that you may pour your spirit into the world, that I may take it and share it with the world. Turn me into a teapot, that I may share your laughter, your love, your joy with the world. From a broken teapot, made new. Let me share of your glory and how you have restored me to working order by example,with one lump or two.
I don't know your plans, I don't know tomorrow, but I trust you enough to follow you, even if it looks like I am going over a cliff. I will trust that their is either a net to catch me, or that you will grant me wings.
Father, give me the faith of Moses! Let me be willing to sacrifice the thing in this world that I hold most dear, for your glory. For your will to be done, on earth as it is in heaven.
I told her today that I didn't want this,but that I wouldn't hold her "hostage". That I love her, and will wait and trust in God to fix us in his timing. That I am not going to give up on her, or God.
She said, she doesn't know what God's plan is. That her life is just crazy and chaotic and this felt like the next step for us.
I told her, I live her and want her to be happy, but that a divorce isn't going to make her life any less crazy or chaotic.
She is going to see the lawyer May 11th, and asked that I see him on May 12th...
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 11, 2016 22:45:07 GMT -5
Eric, I am so, so sorry for this hurt. I understand and sympathize with your fear. I know this "looks" like the end but there us a deep joy in my heart to see your faith as you determinedly state that you know that no piece of paper declares the end of a covenant made before God!! I urge you to cling to that truth, and to always choose to listen to God's voice and not the world's.
I prayed for you and your wife tonight and will continue to do so.
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 12, 2016 7:57:32 GMT -5
Eric....i cried for you. I cry for each of us all over again when these things happen. The pain is real again. I was reminded this morning that god is right there. Our stand is ultimately with and for him. I pray for you. You have an admirable resolve. I stumbled on an internet reading....Answers on Divorce by Ray Stedman. It's not a sugar-coated article...but it has a perspective that soothed me. You are all in my prayers today! Thank God i found this group!
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Post by Sharon on Apr 12, 2016 8:13:14 GMT -5
Hey I wanted to mention my best friends testimony again. Her husband was lying, cheating, doing drugs and drinking. She stayed strong and prayed and he was in a near death situation that even didn't change his heart. He went to jail for 6 years, came out and came home to his wife and did the same thing again. She finally gave up and started dating another man and slept with him. All of a sudden, her husband woke up from his stupor and realized r had driven away the woman who had waited all these years and never gave up on him. That was what finally stirred his heart to chase God. For each person, the event is going to be unique. For me, it was that I found out about a second affair that I could not understand at all or justify somehow in my head and realized how I was sending Chris to hell the way I was acting. You can't give up Eric. Tk is right that holding that paper in her hand may be the thing that stirs her heart back to God. She's hoping it will give her peace and relief. It won't and we all know that, but she may have to learn it on her own. Don't be discouraged brother. You know they even this God will use for great.
James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
Don't lose faith in Gods PERFECT plan. He isn't putting you through the storm for no reason. He has something so much greater and more beautiful in store for you and He is going to show it to you in His time. Keep trusting him. Remember that worry is not natural
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Post by annie on Apr 12, 2016 14:03:13 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Eric. I will be praying for you.
I am moved to tears how all of our stories so weave together that words left by our friends here to soothe Eric's hurting heart also moved in my heart and soothed my aching heart today. It's peaceful to know that amidst all this pain, the Lord understands so much that he sent me here- to you all who feel the same pain.
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 12, 2016 16:29:25 GMT -5
Eric I want to recommend to you (and everyone else, if interested) to read John 11. It was in my daily reading plan for today and it really spoke powerfully to my heart.
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