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Post by marissaa91 on Apr 7, 2016 21:47:50 GMT -5
The last few days have been all over the place. I'm trying to get refocused because we got kicked out of our apartment basically because my husband didn't manage his money well while he was away from me. So I've been worried trying to figure out how I can talk to him and show him how to budget properly. Garrett also called a bit ago to tell me that he's going to be home late because he's doing overtime but that after work he was stopping to see our friend and smoke weed because of his back pain. I was appreciative of him being honest with me but at the same time it hurt. Even though he was doing it while we were still at the apartment this time it shocked me because he said before we moved out that he needed to quit because if we're gonna be around 2 babies(my nephew and cousin) he wants to be a role model. I've also been going through motions over this situation with his friends girlfriend. I'm not as worried about it as before because they aren't around as much and because I think God is giving me peace but occasionally doubt and mistrust fills my mind and I have to pray against it. So I'm just all in my head and have been praying against it. But I was reminded earlier that change is gradual and that he's still pretty new in his walk with God. I'm praying that moving in with my parents helps lead him on a straighter path and that I keep my eyes on my own sin while I pray for him. I'm sorry if this is all over the place. I just needed a space to get out all the stuff going on in my head. Prayers, advice, anything is welcome.
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Post by Mary H on Apr 7, 2016 22:15:19 GMT -5
Forsure going to pray
Sounds like he's starting to withdraw a bit.. I'm going through this with Tony. God gave me a revelation tonight. I gently pressured Tony to do what I wanted. To hurry up & commit to me, knowing that when he commits to me, he will re-commit himself to Christ (I feel the Spirit told me this a while ago) & it just doesn't happen with pressure. Even if it's from a caring heart, even if it's what's best, even if it's very subtle, nice, & sugar coated.. I was reading through my old journal back to when Tony first came home.. About 3 weeks in I began desiring commitment.. What made that wrong was very very quietly (the enemy is a sneaky liar!) I began dwelling more of my wants & less of how I can grow.. Sorry, this is all new revelation for me so I'm just sort of babbling it all out.. Lol but I would just say to give him so much space & let him be unwise with his money. Surely he knows how u feel & how God feels & just needs your prayers & advice when he comes to u for it. Maybe tho, he would be interested in a Dave Ramsey class?
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Post by Eric W. on Apr 7, 2016 22:46:20 GMT -5
Rambling and venting is ok. It's part of what this site is for. Bring it here, get it off your chest and let us help pray along with you, or give each other advice. As the prayer goes, "Give us this day, our daily bread". This stand is a day by day undertaking. Leave tomorrow 's worries, or tomorrow' s bills for tomorrow. Focus on God, here today. I think Mary has some good advice, let him come to you, especially if he is sensitive about it. Unasked for advice may come across as judgement.
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Post by Sharon on Apr 8, 2016 10:06:26 GMT -5
Mary I'm moved by what you said. I often look at the promises God has given us for our restoration and aim towards that goal, instead of aiming towards God. My actions become "what can I do to make Chris put his wedding ring back on" or "what can I do to control his spending problems" instead of "how can I fix my eyes on God today?" I need to adjust my mind. The promises are the result, but NOT the goal. The goal is a relationship with my Father!
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