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Post by wendyp67 on Apr 4, 2016 22:18:40 GMT -5
Tomorrow I have meeting at his school. I am at my wits end. I have no more energy or fight left. The behaviors : ( Today he called others stupid. Of course you have the tattle tales. Anyway I the way to getting on the bus he pushed another kid because "he got in his spot". I whip and punish and make him write lines. I have a billion talks with CJ. I am empty. I pray I get some resolution tomorrow. Please God help.......
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Post by marissaa91 on Apr 4, 2016 23:48:07 GMT -5
Wendy how old is your son? I work with preschoolers as an aide to our teacher but she's a behavior specialist. So a lot of how we're structured is to figure out behaviors and come up with strategies to change them. Maybe using a different approach or figuring out if there's something that triggers the behavior? I know this is hard, I see parents all the time stressed like you are. I'll pray that The Lord brings a breakthrough and guides you in what to do in this situation.
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Post by william on Apr 4, 2016 23:53:49 GMT -5
I will be praying Wendy, try to keep open mind and not get into defensive parent mode (I have been in similar situation b4 with son), I pray that God will intervene.
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Post by tkk2 on Apr 5, 2016 4:36:38 GMT -5
Wendy, your son is crying out....in his own way. Since he can't reason like us, you have to continually giude him....just as the lord is doing with each one of us now. I'm thinking sunday school/youth group. And maybe even more importantly give to someone else. ...i have 2 grandgirls, 6 and 12. A couple times a year they meet me at Walmart. I have the monthly needs list from our local food bank. They each get a shopping cart and the list. I start by letting them know that we are not here to buy anything for ourselves (which is hard for me too, because I'm right there to get that gallon if milk....but i make myself go on a second trip for my needs) I know that everything on the list is around $50. They learn so many lessons, money, budget, goodwill. I give them the $50 so they can pay for their cart. In their view the shopping is fun, primarily because it's one time that no one says "no, you cant have that". Afterwards we go straight to the food bank, they help unload and get to interact on that end also. They get to see the "mini" grocery store there and how it works. Anyway, all kids are inherently self centered, so this might help with that for you. Im thinking try positive discipline. A child might take too much negative discipline as they arent good enough. And then your just reinforcing that each time something happens. Ive seen it with my daughter....not trying to overstep here. Praying for your day.
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 5, 2016 6:08:47 GMT -5
I'm praying for you and CJ! I don't have much experience with kids so I can't offer advice but I am praying.
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Post by Sharon on Apr 5, 2016 12:14:10 GMT -5
"You can't make me (but I can be persuaded)" might be a book that helps you. I was having school problems with Christian too (throwing a tantrum every time I took him to class, also in the grocery store, when we leave grandparents or the park, etc). That book helped give me some insight into how he is thinking and how I can react better to him
Of course he is still strong willed, but I pick my battles now.
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Post by wendyp67 on Apr 5, 2016 22:30:51 GMT -5
Thank y'all for the support. The meeting went well and we are going to meet again to try and come up with a behavior plan. I still say some of this is from what is happening to our family and a lack dad envolvement. But I know I must take some of the blame too. I just loose it when he is defiant. I will have to look for that book. I have to give CJ to God just like I did Chris.
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