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Post by Mary H on Apr 4, 2016 8:32:54 GMT -5
This is very true Sharon & somthing I'm working on!!!! Only great will come from it!!!
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Post by Sharon on Apr 4, 2016 10:43:42 GMT -5
Also, submission was something I struggled with for a really long time. My friend advised me that for women submitting is the hardest thing we can do which is why God calls women to do it. For men the hardest thing is loving someone more then themselves and in a perfect Godly marriage, the wife submits her will to her husbands, because her husband loves her more then himself and will value her opinion. Submission doesn't mean giving your man everything he wants - again the idea of looking at your husband like a spoiled child. You submit as long as his will lined up with Gods will, but at a point when his will is not in agreement with Gods, you submit to God. Of course you can still be respectful to your husband. Don't condemn his actions (judge) but don't submit or go along with it either which will convict instead of condemn. When we were in counseling, I told Chris that if he made me choose between him and God, I was choosing God. I hoped at the time it would force Chris to the narrow path, but he didn't believe me and he shouldn't have. For a while, I still chose Chris over God, but it got to a point that I had to say no more and go back to God. When Chris does follow Gods path, I submit. When he doesn't, I let him go his own way and submit instead to God. It's a clear picture to him that our marriage can be good if he chooses to follow Gods path and if he doesn't, it will be hard
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Post by Mary H on Apr 4, 2016 11:35:38 GMT -5
I completely agree. Although it's very easy to not submit to their decision because we feel God is moving us the other direction.. In thoes moments we still have to submit to our husbands choice & let the Lord do the convicting, & they will eventually get a almost natural consequence instead of us pushing our feelings of the Lord calling us a differant direction, thus we start to try to be "God" in the situation & navigate their decisions. I strongly believe it's not my place to convict Tony of anything; that's the Holy Spirits job & I'm a terrible "Holy Spirit". it always just leaves him bitter & resentful because I was never made to lead or direct him.. Only to submit. They feel the most loved & respected when we do.. It's so hard.. I've been struggling with it a lot the past week or so.. I want want want & although all I want is to be loved, accepted, & appreciated by him- which are appropriate things to want- but I want them so much that I've been willing to sin to try to get it.. Such as pressuring him for commitment, trying to convict him of things almost daily, & be bitter & withdrawn.. Cold shoulder & with holding love.. I think looking at Tony like he's a child makes it all the more difficult to submit.. It usually causes me to be disrespectful in some subtle way.. I'm currently working on submitting, & at the same time looking at him almost as we are just friends, so that my emotions arnt so involved with him & so I can better focus on my realationship with Jesus during this time that Tony is running from Him.
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Post by marissaa91 on Apr 4, 2016 14:05:29 GMT -5
Submitting has been hard for me too since Garrett came home. I think partially because my parents raised me to be independent and also because I know that in some areas of our relationship I'm more mature. Just the way we were raised. But God is working in me to know when to suit to my husband and when to submit to God. I also have been struggling with finding the perfect balance between my relationship with God and my relationship with my husband. It's such a struggle that I know we all face from time to time. At least I know I'm not alone.
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Post by Mary H on Apr 4, 2016 14:44:57 GMT -5
I just so look forward to when all of the intense refining is over & our spouses fully give their ways to the Lord
Yet so thankful for the refining
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Post by Sharon on Apr 4, 2016 14:46:10 GMT -5
Mary that is amazing. I'm putting this in my prayer journal. You are so right! I am going to read your words again a few times because God is speaking something to me through that.
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