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Post by tkk2 on Apr 2, 2016 12:04:47 GMT -5
I am heartbroken. ...after 20 years together he filed. Crying. We've barely talked in 16 months separated, he wont agree to counseling, and now this. The tears won't stop! He filed on Good Friday. Who does that? How does God see that? He has no hope for us and that is just killing me....
I went to his business early this morning, before they open, to do his monthly books and pay taxes (same routine I've had every month for 20 years ). I couldn't get the bank statements to save as pdf....when i dropped down to choose different drive, a usb came up with a bunch of docs on it. I couldn't believe it. I clicked on the latest doc 4/1/16 and there was the court stamp dated 3/25/16, Good Friday.
I haven't been served yet, so he doesn't know i know.
I finished my job there and couldn't get out fast enough. I'm home, praying and crying and reaching out to you all.
Oh Lord, what have i done?
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Post by Mary H on Apr 2, 2016 13:17:03 GMT -5
I'm so sorry.... I'm praying !
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He filed.
Apr 2, 2016 13:34:39 GMT -5
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Apr 2, 2016 13:34:39 GMT -5
Aww no :/ I'm praying hard for you!
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Post by Eric W. on Apr 2, 2016 13:52:02 GMT -5
TK,
We all dread this. I can't imagine how you must feel, but I know God has this. I don't know his plans for today, or tomorrow, but I know whatever happens, he will turn it to good for us. I know this isn't what you want, but please trust in God. Remember Lazarus, Mary, and Martha. When they thought it too late,Lazarus had already died. Jesus came and showed them the power and glory of our God. Trust and believe. I will be praying for you sister.
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Post by Sharon on Apr 2, 2016 13:54:47 GMT -5
Lord I come to you asking for a peace to come over TK. Remind her of your love Lord. Remind her of the many times you have spoken through her to her lost husband. You have not given up on him. You have a great will and a purpose for even this Lord. We in our flesh recognize divorce as the end, but you have an end game that we can not possibly understand. We pray that you would use this for your glory. Comfort TK now and be her husband. Care for her and comfort her and give her a peace that passes understanding. Please Lord show your hand and give her a hope for the future. We know that the enemy works his hardest before your glory comes, and we believe that your will is to restore this marriage and so we will put our hope in you. Please reveal the light to TK, that she can have hope for her future.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Lord we claim this for TK right now. You do have plans to prosper her and not to harm her. Walk with her in this storm Lord. Take her through it, because she is too weak to continue on her own, but you are more then strong enough. Give her your strength.
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Post by Sharon on Apr 2, 2016 14:00:25 GMT -5
I was reading testimonies on the Every Mans Battle Workshop page today and this one really stood out:
"In 2012, I admitted to my wife, my parents, and to my boys that I was a sex addict. Unknown to me, my marriage would soon fall victim to a separation in 2013, and ultimately a very ugly divorce in 2014. The divorce was due to my ignorance how to help my wife heal from the crap that I had done, and like a coward, I walked away from that beautiful women and our two precious boys. Fast forward to October, 2015, I woke up to a knock on my door. It was my ex-wife and that night for the first time in many years she hugged me and told me that I was a good man, that I’d done some bad things, but God loves me and so does she-STILL! She held me that night and for the first time EVER, I felt God’s grace. I re-dedicated myself to her, to my boys, to my marriage, and to God. The last 4 months have not been perfect, but my buddy Jason, Bob, my group leader, and my EMB brothers have given me some new tools to take the fight to the enemy. . . and I’m READY! My family is worth it, I am worth it, and God is more than worth it! – Conrad"
He is doing miracles still. TK, you have seen miracles yourself in God speaking through you to your husband on many occasions. There is still hope here. Our hope is for your marriage to be restored, but more then that, our hope is for your husband to recommit himself to Christ. Lord, please do not let your son wander off any longer. Please drag him back to you, kicking and screaming if necessary. Shake the ground under his feet and make him recognize he can not live without you any longer. Please Lord, we ask that you bring your prodigal son home to you.
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Post by william on Apr 2, 2016 16:00:20 GMT -5
TK,
I am hurting for you sister, and I am praying hard for you & the situation. I feel your pain as my wife has also filed and the year "waiting" period has begun & will be final unless she stops it. Everyday, that thought creeps into my mind & I immediately say out loud; "Jesus I need you, take the thought that is not from you away."
My personal feelings regarding her filing the paperwork is that what God has laid deep in my heart and soul, revealed to me through reading his words, devotionals, self reflection, seeking and praying for his guidance is to continue to stand no matter what & that there is no "piece of paper" that holds any athourity over God and what he has commanded me to do.
Stay strong sister, remember that God & all of us are standing up with you.
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Post by erika on Apr 2, 2016 16:35:52 GMT -5
We serve a God of Restoration, Jesus declared that ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH GOD and that IF WE BELIEVE, we will receive whatever we ask for in prayer, so standing for marriage restoration means walking by faith, standing in obedience and ignoring everything we hear and see. I will pray for you TKK. God will use this for good.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Apr 2, 2016 16:46:18 GMT -5
I agree with Erika, thank you for saying what you said because I needed to hear it too!
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He filed.
Apr 2, 2016 19:58:44 GMT -5
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Post by marissaa91 on Apr 2, 2016 19:58:44 GMT -5
I'm so sorry TK! I can't imagine how you must feel, I'm praying.
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Post by Adrienne on Apr 2, 2016 22:03:34 GMT -5
TK, I'm so sorry for this hurt!!! I saw this post earlier today and have had you in my thoughts and prayers all day. During my church service tonight a few readings came up which I felt God gave me for you.
The first one is Luke 5:5-6 ---- a reminder that sometimes we feel like we're doing something (like standing) and nothing's happening and there's no hope anymore... BUT GOD. God can turn any situation around and He is for marriage!! Here are the verses:
5 Simon answered, “Master, we’ve worked hard all night and haven’t caught anything. But because you say so, I will let down the nets.”
6 When they had done so, they caught such a large number of fish that their nets began to break.
And the second one is Psalm 121---- a reminder that God is ALWAYS with us!!
1 I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
where does my help come from?
2 My help comes from the Lord,
the Maker of heaven and earth.
3 He will not let your foot slip—
he who watches over you will not slumber;
4 indeed, he who watches over Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep.
5 The Lord watches over you—
the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
6 the sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon by night.
7 The Lord will keep you from all harm—
he will watch over your life;
8 the Lord will watch over your coming and going
both now and forevermore.
I also had a thought that I know it seems awful that he filed on Good Friday... but maybe God is going to take that symbol and turn it around. The world can say your marriage is dead. Just like the world said that Jesus was dead... But we all know that God rises the dead from the tomb and He gives LIFE!
Don't lose heart, sister. I know this hurts but God's still working. I'll continue praying for you and your family too!
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Post by pstokes522 on Apr 3, 2016 19:47:51 GMT -5
I know what you are going through TK. My husband filed on February 19, and in Texas a divorce is final 61 days after it is filed. I was so shocked when he filed, and have been an emotional wreck for weeks. I usually have a strong faith, but Satan is really using this to fill my head with doubts. I've got to get my faith jump started again. I will be praying for you.
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