Boundaries

So tonight was the night I had a serious talk with Garrett about things. We agreed to be more open about finances and try to not argue when it needs to be talked about. We're gonna read the book Boundaries in Marriage along side doing the Love Dare. And I'll be kind of paraphrasing some devotionals I'm personally doing on boundaries to him. We also agreed to an open phone policy. We each can look at each others phone, texts, and social media anytime if needed. We talked about his smoking and not letting it get out of hand because even though he thinks the weed helps him I still stand on my beliefs. And we also talked about what would make me more comfortable in this process regarding his band mates gf. He agreed to delete her number and he deleted his snap chat app altogether. And he did it front of me. He still has her on Insta and FB but that's because bandmate still doesn't know and he doesn't want him to get suspicious. I explained how I did feel like he should know the truth but that it's not my place to reveal that. So as long as we have the open phone policy I said FB and Insta are ok. I meet with a pastor Monday to talk and Garrett will be messaging her husband to talk. We easily agreed and compromised on everything which is leaps and bounds from how it use to be. I feel so much better at this moment. I can really appreciate all the effort he's putting in because it wasn't like this before. And I can see now that it's all because of me allowing God to change me first. Changing my attitude and words along side tons of prayer made the difference. Praise God. I pray that we continue forward.