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I wrote a letter to Chris last night after praying. It's funny to me that he feels the distance between us when we are apart. I notice that we fight better on the phone and we make up better that way too. He's awkward and doesn't want to express his emotions. He's got a wall up, so I sent him a letter. I think it really meant a lot to him.

What I love about you



I don’t say it often enough how much you mean to me. You are not perfect, and I am grateful for that. I am not perfect. I love you just as you are. God has helped me to see you through His eyes. He loves you just as you are too. God created you for me in every way. I truly believe in soul mates, because you are mine. I would never be the person I am now if not for you, and I can’t wait to see the person I will continue to grow into thanks to you. I wanted to tell you how much I love you, specifically – through the things that you do. You are a good man Chris. So here is what I love about you:



You take time for your family and for me: You come home every single night. And you don’t just come home because you have nowhere else to go. You are very charismatic. You could make lots of friends (and you do have lots of friends thanks to the military). You could be out every night, drinking, partying, etc. You don’t. You come home. You come spend time with me and the kids. You actually spend time – playing with the kids. Watching movies as a family. Taking us out on family drives and going out to have fun. You spend every day that you have off with us. You don’t avoid us – you actually truly enjoy your quality time with us. Thank you. I know I am not the easiest woman to live with. Even when things are difficult, you still always come home.

You are a loving gentleman: You hold the door for me, you hold my hand when we go out together. You aren’t ashamed to be around me, in fact you are proud to be my husband. You wear me on your arm like something to be had. You build esteem in me.

You are considerate of my feelings: If I ask you go to out for date night, you do. Even if it’s just get rid of the kids for the night and stay in spending time together. You hold that time sacred and give it to me. You don’t go to your computer or go and do your own errands when you have promised to spend time with me. And you kiss me, even when you roll your eyes and get irritated because I am clingy. You still are considerate and will do it anyways. In fact, you get irritated at me, when I get irritated at you for being irritated that I’m trying to kiss you! Basically you do things you don’t want to do, because you know they are things that I want to do. That means a lot to me. Thank you for caring about my feelings. And speaking of feelings –

You take time to love the things I love: I noticed that about you immediately. From the time we started dating. You started listening to musicals, because you knew I liked musicals. Wow! What kind of a man does that?! You took me to see shows. You come see my shows. I know you don’t care about costumes! You care, because you care about me. You can’t ever understand how much I love that about you. I wish I could love that way. I am so lacking in that way. I would like to love what you love, but I fall short. And speaking of falling short -

You take a nagging like a pro: Like I said, I know I am a difficult woman to live with. God blessed me for sure with an extremely patient man. And as much as that sometimes drives me crazy, I know I couldn’t live without a man like you. You let my nagging, my mean words, my anger roll off your back like water. You wash it off and move on like nothing happened. Thank you for giving me that grace. You are a rock. God has gifted you with this patience, not just for me though. I know he is going to use this gift in you for his good.

You truly want to know God: I believe this. It’s taken years of frustrating arguments and mean words and finally forgiveness and letting go of bitterness for me to realize that. I know you are a real man of God. You don’t know him closely and intimately yet, but you want to. Just that desire will be enough to spark you forward quickly. You are going to be a great man of God, just like you are great at everything you do, which is my next thing I love about you.

When you put your mind to something, you always get it done: And well! You don’t always know how to do something, but if you put your mind to it, you learn how to do it like a pro. It’s amazing! Seriously, you impress me with how awesome you are at everything you do (and make me jealous a little!). God put this clumsy failing woman with an amazing achieving man. Thank you God! I can’t do it without you hubby, but I don’t have to, because you always help me!

You are kind: I have seen you go out of your way to help not just me, but people you barely even know. Cody is a perfect example of how kind you are. You don’t have to visit him. You could have abandoned him. All his other friends did. But you actually want to go visit him. You go out of your way on a day off to go see your friend, because he needs a friend. What a wonderful heart you have! I am so blessed to have such a kind friend to call my husband.



Chris, these are just a few of the awesome things I see in you, but I don’t want to make this too long, because I am your wife and I know you don’t love reading my books. I am not sure how to share this with you, but these are some of the things God has put on my heart to share with you recently. I am so in love with the man you are right now. You’re a good man. I appreciate you. I love you. As deep as your soul. You are my prince charming. No matter what happens. I know God has us held together in His hand and he has great plans for our future and it starts with you. Thank you for being my amazing husband and loving this crazy annoying woman.



I complain too much about him. I want to show him that I appreciate his good qualities, even if they come with the bad. Today he told me on the phone that he read my letter. He didn't say anything else, but I know what that means. Normally, he would laugh or call me dramatic or tell me why do I have to be so weird? He said nothing and that really speaks volumes. Lord, please use this to soften his heart for you. Bless my husband. Speak loudly and clearly to him and protect him. He wants you, I know that even if he doesn't realize it yet. Please draw him to you.