Meeting

The good news is Dana wants to hold off on the divorce. He realizes he misses his best friend. He even suggested counseling. The bad news is he's still in that mindset of doubt. Every time he comes over, its some new horrible grievance I've committed.....tonight it was the day after we married and everyday since....really? Hey, i own up to my part in this mess.....but still the lies from Satan.
I told him my views of the world being black and white....sin and no sin. He tried to explain shades of gray with the woman at the well. That Christ didn't condem her sin. But showed her grace. Dana is saying grace is a shade of gray. I get that, but my point is the sin was black and white, and that led to grace. He doesn't see the enemy behind the scenes tempting him. He's still convinced we were born with innate sin and then we follow free will. He tried to play down the 10 commandments. I pointed out that God didn't give us The 10 Suggestions. They are meant to be followed. He's saying that God knew we couldn't follow because of our innate sin, so in some way that lessens them. Im having trouble with this mentality, if Satan isn't to be feared because we have free will, then what about God? He doesn't see God ever putting us together as man and wife. So, since he can't acknowledge that i truly don't think his mind can work it out. He doesn't see the marriage as a covenant with God. He's not denying God in any way....but he's missing the big picture. Satan still has him bound. Please continue prayers that the blinders would come off.

Try as much as you can to not push your view even if it is the truth. Let the Holy Spirit lead him to truth. I think a part of him believes God put you two together or he wouldn't be back. The enemy definatly still has a hold but zip the lips. When he's upset at you for past hurts, let him vent. I know how annoying and hard it can be. Tony does the very same thing. Tell him your sorry & you'll pray for him & you there for him.
The Holy Spirit will give him clearity. Pray for him & "zip the lips" as RMM says. Let him lead you spiritually. Even though you know more & have clearity, be a humble servents& be submissive. Let him believe what he wants to believe & trust the Lord to grant him clearity in perfect timing.
Your entering into a new level; a new area of growth for you. Focus on how this can make you more Christ-like. That is, after all, why he is coming home without a full heart transplant. God is so gracious & all-knowing & is taking time out to continue His work in you. Such a blessing! Praise God! There is no bad news here! Only praise!

Many heartfelt thanks to you all for the kind words and wisdom!
I won't be divorced today! PTL!
Dana is pushing everything forward 60 days with the courts. I don't know what kind of counseling he thinks can happen in 60 days, but I'm zipping my lips. This is a new chapter. Please pray that i listen better to him. I do struggle with wanting to be heard. God still has plenty of work to do in each of us.

Tk thats some great news for you and your husband. I'm very happy for you as well !!

Yes!!! Victory for the Lord! Yeah I agree I know 60 days doesn't seem like much, but our Lord has done much more with much less!

Glad to hear this!!!! I agree with everything being said, big praise! One thing that I find helpful in the confusing area of are we off or are we on... The standing after the prodigal comes home and after the prodigal returns, back to back book by the Steincamps at Rejoice. Don't expect it to be perfectly restored upon the prodigals return, it will be a process. This helps me. Hope it helps you. Praise and will keep praying for you!