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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jun 20, 2016 17:15:55 GMT -5
My husband sent me papers through email today and said to let him know when we could meet at the courthouse to sign them. I told him I wouldn't be able to come until next week since I'm out of town... I expected anger but he was ok with that. I also let him know that I love him and I never gave up on wanting to work things out with him. No response to that. I'm just so numb, hurt, upset. I have been led to stand but I don't know how to handle this...
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Post by Eric W. on Jun 20, 2016 18:14:44 GMT -5
This task we have been given can be unnerving, scary, and a heavy burden to carry, but God has given us the ability to give this over to him and trust. Lay those nerves, that fear, and the heavy heart at the feet of Jesus. He will give you peace, if you trust in him. It won't be easy, but it will be easier.
I sometimes think of Moses as the Jews were at the bank of the Red Sea, with the Egyptian army closing in on them. I know from the bible that the Jewish people had doubts, but I sometimes wonder what Moses was thinking. Everyone must have thought him at least somewhat crazy, and I know society looks at us as crazy sometimes today. But he trusted in God, no matter how dark it looked, no matter what people thought about him, he trusted God. Give the hurt, the brokenness, the pieces to him and trust, sister.
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Post by pstokes522 on Jun 20, 2016 23:31:42 GMT -5
Lindsey - I know exactly how devastated you are. It was just a couple of months ago I was going through the exact same thing. I can tell you from experience that it does get easier. Keep praying and crying out to Jesus. Keep your eyes on Him and not your circumstances. When you try to talk about your situation with people, you will get very emotional. I can't even name the people I have completely broken down in front of. Surprisingly enough, it's mainly Christian church members who really don't understand our stand. The church today has become so numb to divorce that a large % of them advised me to move on (& still do). You may find the same thing, but you must stand strong in The Lord. He has a plan for you, & it is far greater than anything you could put together for yourself. Remember that we are called to be obedient, which is something that many Christians don't want to hear or do. If you have a female prayer partner there that you can turn to, it will be very helpful for you. We are always here for you, but sometimes it's nice to sit across the table from someone and know they are praying for you. I will be praying specifically for you to feel God's peace and reassurance to help you through this difficult time.
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Post by Adrienne on Jun 21, 2016 9:23:25 GMT -5
Lindsey, Eric and P sum things up perfectly. I am praying for peace for you. The passage that comes to mind is when Jesus is sleeping on the boat and the disciples get scared because of a big storm and wake Him up. He says they have little faith and He calms the storm... He wasn't worried about the storm in the slightest because our God is bigger than these storms we go through.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jun 21, 2016 11:18:11 GMT -5
Thank you Eric, Patricia, and Adrienne for your kind words and advice. I'm trying very hard to just trust in God and be at peace. I'm out of town and all of my prayer partners are at home... I'd give anything to have them here face to face but I know they are praying for me. I also have a friend going through the same thing I'm going through, she's been a big help. I have another friend that was seperated from her BOYFRIEND for a year, but she knew he was supposed to be her husband. They recently were reunited and got married... suddenly! I know God is bigger than my circumstance and He will see me through. This is just a really hard thing for me bc things seem to have gone even more downhill with my husband since I got out of town. I don't know if he's angry bc I'm having a good life and he's miserable, or what. The papers he sent are from rocketlawyer.com anyone know anything about that? Also, he's saying we have to go to the courthouse and sign in front of a notery public... there isn't one there from what I've seen. These papers seem fishy, but I could be wrong... anyways thanks for letting me ramble on ya'll  |
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Post by pstokes522 on Jun 21, 2016 16:23:53 GMT -5
Satan turns up the fire when he sees progress being made. Just keep strong. We don't alway see what progress was being made, but if God isn't making progress then Satan doesn't feel threatened and he doesn't pay much attention. In his mind he's already destroyed your marriage. But when progress is being made, he's got to up the lies he's telling your husband and he's got to try to get you to doubt. Who knows, maybe God is dangling a fresh start in a new state in front of your husband..  ? |
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jun 21, 2016 16:54:06 GMT -5
Thank you Patricia, that makes a lot of sense. I'm trying to stay strong, but I'm so mentally exhausted and I guess Satan realizes that because he's hitting me very hard right now. I started crying when I got to the part where you said God could be dangling a fresh start in a new state in front of my husband. He has nothing right now... he's at rock bottom from what I see. So you could be very right.
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Post by Sharon on Jun 21, 2016 19:28:43 GMT -5
Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord, "Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
God we don't know your plan, but we know that you have one and it is awesome. We know Lord that you have called Lindsey to stand and she has in faith that you will do your good work. We know that you are in control and that you can restore a marriage that has ended. You say that what God has joined together let no man separate and we hold that as a promise for Lindsey's marriage. Strengthen her Lord. No matter what happens with her husband or her marriage, help her to stand firm on you her rock. Help her focus and her love be for you. Please put a peace that passes understanding over her. Help her to see you clearly and give her hope. A glimpse of her future. Another promise. Please strengthen her with that encouragement that even though the world says this is the end, from your infinitely wise view, this is a small piece in a long and beautiful story of restored marriage. We know you will do it. You have already set the plan in motion. So please comfort your daughter as she walks through the valley because we know that you are with her and you have a table set for her on the other side.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jun 21, 2016 22:09:35 GMT -5
Thank you Sharon, that brought me to tears :/ I'm VERY scared of what my future holds but I'm trusting in God to restore my marriage bc I know he can.
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Post by Sharon on Jun 22, 2016 0:50:02 GMT -5
He can, he wants to, and he will! Believe it sister! Have that mustard seed faith!
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Post by Adrienne on Jun 22, 2016 11:03:55 GMT -5
I'm still praying for you Lindsey!! I know what it's like to have fear about what the future holds but Jeremiah 29:11 is a wonderful reason to hold onto hope. Our God has perfect plans!
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jun 22, 2016 14:22:29 GMT -5
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Post by erika on Jun 22, 2016 18:09:53 GMT -5
I'm praying for you Lindsey !!! I know God is working on something and remember just because you don't see it, doesn't mean God is not working behind doors . Don't give up !! Keep praying for your husband !!! I remember last year when my husband left, I was hurt, sad. Standing for my marriage was very difficult and my husband's attitude didn't help much, I asked God for a sign, few days later I was changing radio stations in my car and that's how I found klove and the song they were playing at the time was Oceans from Hillsong United, I cried so much, I had to pull over, it was definitely a sign from God. Sharon, God will restore your marriage !! Im sure I'll be hearing your testimony soon.
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Post by william on Jun 22, 2016 21:19:17 GMT -5
Sister Lindsey,
I am sorry and I feel your pain...but I encourage you to take a step back, close your eyes, and just breathe. Concentrate on your heart beating, slowly exhale.
I am guilty of thinking about the whys, how's, and when's too during our stands- it's natural for us to. What we can't do is let it consume our thoughts, time and heart.
I often think of when Jesus was praying to God in the Garden Gethsemane - the agony, loneliness, the burden of waiting and so on. Jesus knew what He was called to do & what the outcome would be. When He prayed his expressed those emotions but to me the Most Important Part is Jesus said
" Let Your Will be Done ". Fast forward to the cross Jesus was betrayed by His own people, mocked, beaten, and nailed to the cross...during that time Jesus himself was separated from God - His faith however was never...during the time of separation Jesus felt every raw and powerful emotion we feel but He felt it all with the weight of the world at once.
Sister,
The pain you, I and all of us feel is intense, raw and powerful. When I get those feelings I take my step back and remember what's stated above. Then I remember Gods love...how he knows what & how we're feeling and He feels it too. Don't lose faith...keep your eyes and heart focused on God and He Will take care of the rest.
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Post by fordlindsey5314 on Jun 25, 2016 12:20:32 GMT -5
I want to thank everyone for the prayers and kind words. I'm getting so many great reasons and opportunities to stay here in Tennessee... I ask God over and over, do I stay here in TN or go home and do what my husband is asking... so far, I've gotten reasons to stay here. So, God please handle my husband, soften his heart towards me and lead him back to me and this marriage. I don't want him to be angry at me. I'm so on edge and anxiety ridden but I'm trusting in God... he's got this, right?!?!
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