No. Not yet

TK,
I will be praying for guidance. I am looking at the same thing. My wife is going to a lawyer May 11th to sign the paperwork and is asking me to go May 12th. She texted me Friday that the lawyer said if we both signed by the 12th, then it would be finalized June 6th...

I have told my wife I won't force her to stay. That I will sign the paperwork, but that this isn't what I want. I can't force her to stay, and if I could I don't want her to if it's not what she wants. I am going to continue to pray for guidance for myself and you. God has the final say in all of this. A civic document is a piece of paper in the end. I think Wed said it in an earlier post. Our prodigals have to surrender this of their own free will. As much as we want to help them, they have to take that first step. I am sorry for your hurt sister.

Father, several of us are in the very near future facing a worldly battle. The devil has blinded our spouses with lies, manipulation, and falsehoods. Lord, they have been tricked into thinking this is the next course of action, the next step. God our world has turned to one of throw aways. TV broken, throw it away and buy a new one, car needing repairs, trade it in on a new one, marriage hitting bumps in the road of life, move your separate ways. God this isn't your plan. TV's can be repaired, car parts can be replaced, and marriages can grow closer through the bumps not apart. Lord, I ask you to grant us wisdom, and discernment. Wisdom to follow your path. And discernment to know that we are on that path. Lord, I don't want to fight with my wife, I don't want to force her to stay in this. God, I want her to want to work this out. I want her to want me to be there. I want her to want to be there herself. Father, I give you this, my marriage, my wife, my family. Father, this is my Isaac. If you are calling me to sacrifice this on your altar, I will follow where you lead. Lord, I know you have a plan through all this hurt, all this confusion, all this turmoil. Father, allow me to grow. The storm can be frightening, but the grass doesn't grow quite as green without that water. Father teach us, lead us. Let our roots grow strong and our blades turn vibrant and green as we follow you through this. In your name I pray, Amen.

Praying for you!!

Tk. I feel your Hurt and I'm keeping you all in my prayers. What Sharon is saying is right, the enemy is twisting the truth for your husband, don't let the enemy win, he was already defeated at the cross. I suggest keep praying until the last minute, it's not over until is over. Yesterday's night service was about perseverance and not letting the devil win, most of the times I don't stay or watch the night service but something told me last night (I know it was the Holy Spirit) to watch it, so I did, and my pastor shared this verse with us and it really gave me strength after a very tough week.
“Then he said, "Let me go, for the day has broken." But Jacob said, "I will not let you go unless you bless me."”
Genesis 32:26 ESV

So don't let go, everybody don't let go until we get our blessing, if God promised it and if he showed it to you in visions or dreams and you felt peace, then it comes from God. TK you are not alone believe me, God will not let you down.

TK - this letter could have been written by David. As I read it silently, it came across my mind in his voice. He and Dana are in the same place. We went to court on April 22. He came to town on the 21st and we spent a wonderful day together, better than old times. He stayed here that night (spare bedroom) and we rode together to court the next morning. On the way I asked him if he wanted to stop this whole process, and he shook his head and just said "Sorry" as he saw me tear up. When the judge asked him if this marriage could be reconciled, his response was "Not at this time." The days since have been a roller coaster of emotions, compounded by the death of a family member. I am still grieving for the life I lost, but as others have stated, I can't force him to love me, and as much as I love him, I don't want him staying with me if he doesn't love me. His birthday was a few days before our court date, so I bought him a card and wrote in it how much I love the life we had for 33 years, and my only regret was that I didn't fight harder when he first started slipping away. I told him I knew we could have grown close again, as we had done previously in our marriage. I told him that I hope this divorce brings him the result he desires so much. He read it and thanked me for the card. However, down deep in my heart I know that this divorce is not going to give him peace. God doesn't work that way. He's going to continue to convict David, disrupt things in his life, and keep him awake at night because this goes against the very word of God. I've spoken with my pastor many times, and he encourages me to continue to pursue God and follow whatever God instructs me to do. But, I get the feeling from his prayers that he thinks God is going to release me from my stand so I can move forward with my life and find another partner. My kids have told me the same thing, and they are all Christians trying to lead righteous lives. I think they feel this way because they love me and want to see me truly happy again. Yesterday my therapist referred me to a military chaplain, because where she is a Christian, she felt the chaplain could give me better spiritual guidance. He did not know me prior to yesterday, and does not know my husband. He is completely unbiased in my situation. His words to me were to absolutely continue to stand for my marriage and continue to pray for God to break David's heart, in whatever way He sees best, so that David is truly broken before Him. He reaffirmed to me that Yes, God does change people, often times in an instant. Where the soil of our hearts were ready for the seeds of the Lord to grow and flourish, our spouses hearts are rocky and hard - so the seeds of God's love and truth didn't grow at the same rate within their hearts and lives. However, sometimes seeds that are sown on the hardened soil, lie there and eventually with enough water, start to take root. The plants may take a little longer to germinate and may grow at a slower pace than the seeds sown on soil that was ready to receive them, but the plants keep growing and eventually grow into maturity. He also told me that he personally has witnessed marriages that ended in divorce, be restored by The Lord. He says the person came back completely changed, and in some instances he was skeptical of the changes, but they proved to be truly changed people. He confirmed to me what I already knew in my heart. I know this is long, and I apologize for rambling, but today's the first day I've had to catch up with all of you, though I've thought about you all often and prayed for you in the days I've been silent.